btvdts Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 it's been over two months since she broke up with me. I stopped contacting her a week after the break up since I had to move out of our place. the last time I saw her she said " I'm sorry and I love you". As I was driving away with my stuff she texted me that night "that the house felt empty without me and that she loved me and that I'm amazing and that any girl would be lucky to have me." I hate the fact that a little peace of my heart still holds onto hope, but now I think...if I was that great, then why would she let me go? Why would she not want to work it out? in a way I wish she hadn't said those things because it makes me feel like she was saying, you're good, but not good enough for me. it's been tough for me because I'm in a new place while she is surrounded by family and friends, and not to mention a lot of guys who want to date her. I've had so many urges to look at her Facebook to see how great her life is just to see if it will crush my hope, but I know it will only hurt me. I just hope this "hope" will fade soon. I have no hate for her, just makes me sad she NEVER said anything until she was done. she's 33 and a mom of 2 so I thought she would of been more mature and express herself. I mean no lie but the first night we slept together, she asked me if I thought she was "loose" Down there....how can a girl have enough courage to ask that but not say hey I'm not happy lets try to fix this before things get worse? I don't think of her like I used to, but that makes me sad cause it makes me think well she must be twice as far on being over the relationship if she's not already with someone new which i think there was someone before I even left. I really just wish I could be like "get over it man, she's not coming back". If only it was that easy huh my fellow dumpees.
Sleepyhead Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Sorry to hear what you're going through, I know it sucks! The questions you're asking are ones we have all asked ourselves. Like yours, my ex told me things like "you're the only girl I want" and "I want this so badly" as he sobbed and held me a few weeks after we broke up, but it still didn't mean he wanted to get back together. I never saw him cry before that. I honestly don't know why. I wonder if its just out of habit. As for her not wanting to fix things, I think its more of an issue of putting in the effort than feeling comfortable with you. For whatever reason, in her mind the relationship was unfixable or she was just past the point of wanting to bother fixing it, even if she did feel really safe and secure with you.
Never Again Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 A lot of people like to think that relationships should just happen, no work or effort required. That's why so many fall apart when the first rough/stale/boring patch hits. Folks ride it out, without saying squat, expecting everything to resolve itself without and effort or communication on their part. When the watched pot refuses to boil, and their feelings fade, they bolt. 1
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