lovesick1 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Have a gf of 9 months who I am very happy with. And despite being left by my ex of 3 years in 2012 for another guy, I still get hung up on thoughts of her. I have gone as far to sit down and write out the reasons behind why she left, what kind of person she was, and have firmly established it was for the best. I was very happy after doing this and looked forward to finally having a great relationship free of thoughts of the ex. Yet somehow, without fail, still not a day goes by that I don't think about her, miss her, and want her back. It comes and goes, but refuses to go away for good. I am yin and yang with this girl. Miss her like crazy then happy as hell to be rid of her and with a truly wonderful person. I am tired of this bs, it has been well over a year now and I am really sick of wondering if we will ever get back together. I eventually contacted her Friday, telling her I missed hearing about her life, to which she kind of brushed off by responding but not directly. I reiterated it in a following text saying she should give me a call, and she said "same goes to you." Finally, I ended with- alright, if you are ever around town give me a call and we can catch up," to which she never answered. Why won't she just go away..... My thoughts- she is finishing up college and with a new guy it is easy to move on being so preoccupied with other things. My case- I have finished college and am struggling to settle down in a career, leaving lots of time to think of her. It annoys me because it distracts me from my current relationship, which I really truly value- as in, if my ex left her boyfriend I wouldn't leave my relationship to try and rekindle things. So why do I think of the ex so often? Tired of this mess. What's even more frustrating is immediately after I started seeing this new girl the ex contacted me (saw pictures) asking to be friends again, to which I politely and gently shut her down. After that it was history and hadn't heard from her until Friday. What's the deal here? I wanna make her go poof, bye bye, but part of me refuses to let go.
Philosoraptor Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I think you should proceed by telling your new girlfriend that you are hung up on your ex and hoping she comes back to you. That way this current girlfriend of yours can know what she is dealing with. It is unfair to her to have her committed for 9 months and you still be willing to jump back with your ex. You are clearly rebounding and have not taken the time necessary to heal from your past relationship, which is why you are still hung up on it. 2
organizedchaos Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I think you should proceed by telling your new girlfriend that you are hung up on your ex and hoping she comes back to you. That way this current girlfriend of yours can know what she is dealing with. It is unfair to her to have her committed for 9 months and you still be willing to jump back with your ex. You are clearly rebounding and have not taken the time necessary to heal from your past relationship, which is why you are still hung up on it. Agreed. Pretty crappy thing you're doing to the new girl.
Author lovesick1 Posted December 30, 2013 Author Posted December 30, 2013 I think you should proceed by telling your new girlfriend that you are hung up on your ex and hoping she comes back to you. That way this current girlfriend of yours can know what she is dealing with. It is unfair to her to have her committed for 9 months and you still be willing to jump back with your ex. You are clearly rebounding and have not taken the time necessary to heal from your past relationship, which is why you are still hung up on it. I know what you are saying. But as I said, I wouldn't leave my relationship even being presented the opportunity to have my ex. So the part you said about me being willing to jump back with the ex just isn't true.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 I know what u mean... I have a lovely new bloke and when Im with him I dont even think about my ex but when Im alone he occupies my mind again.. I wonder if some of it is a bad habit we have got into... x
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