Sam23 Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 As far as past or current relationships, flings, friendships, etc., what do you regret the most? Just curious what both men and women have to share.
d0nnivain Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 That I didn't end a dysfunctional relationship years earlier. 2
BikerAccnt Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 That I didn't end a dysfunctional relationship years earlier. I think all of us can say this at one time or another.. 1
KatZee Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 I regret... 1. putting other people's happiness above my own. 2. giving people the benefit of the doubt despite waving red flags. 3. staying with people way longer than I should have. 4. compromising my boundaries. 5. staying with a cheater. 6. allowing my ex to emotionally abuse me. 7. staying quiet when people disrespected me right to my face. 8. not standing up for what I wanted/needed/desired. 9. letting people take advantage of me. 10. defending a s.hit stain to everyone. 11. ignoring my mother's advice when she told me my ex was a piece of s.hit. 12. spending so much money traveling hundreds of miles every couple weeks to see a dude I was in a LDR relationship with for 19 months, the guy who only came to see ME, ONCE. 13. kissing my ex's a.ss telling him he was so perfect and amazing, only reinforcing his bad behavior. 14. not caring enough about myself in a relationship. Losing myself, not living with any passion for myself. 15. loving others more than myself. 2
furby19 Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 (edited) I regret... 1. putting other people's happiness above my own. 2. giving people the benefit of the doubt despite waving red flags. 3. staying with people way longer than I should have. 4. compromising my boundaries. 5. staying with a cheater. 6. allowing my ex to emotionally abuse me. 7. staying quiet when people disrespected me right to my face. 8. not standing up for what I wanted/needed/desired. 9. letting people take advantage of me. 10. defending a s.hit stain to everyone. 11. ignoring my mother's advice when she told me my ex was a piece of s.hit. 12. spending so much money traveling hundreds of miles every couple weeks to see a dude I was in a LDR relationship with for 19 months, the guy who only came to see ME, ONCE. 13. kissing my ex's a.ss telling him he was so perfect and amazing, only reinforcing his bad behavior. 14. not caring enough about myself in a relationship. Losing myself, not living with any passion for myself. 15. loving others more than myself. I can concur with 2,3,6,7,9,11 and 12. These things did not necessarily happen to me in relationships with men. Most of things happended to me in life just dealing with people in general and they are things that I regret dearly. Edited December 29, 2013 by furby19 Needed to add more
regine_phalange Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I wish I had sent the police to an ex of mine.
Targetlock Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 only a minor regret of not asking a girl i had a crush on at my last job, then meeting her a few years later and still not taking the chance . still think about her sometimes, learned to always take a chance, its better than regret.
somedude81 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I regret not being more aggressive and forward with women. Being a pussy does not get you pussy. 2
SoonMyFriend Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 -Staying with my ex for as long as I did -Not having the confidence to end it sooner -Being scared to have sex with the next guy I dated -Not being myself in the next relationship I had for fear of rejection -Dating too quickly after my LTR ended 1
what_a_blonde Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I regret letting my guard down, especially during a time when I was vulnerable, to be there for someone who I thought was a true "friend" and gentlemen... who then fed me all the right lines, which in turn made me fall for him when I shouldn't have. This whole ordeal has taken up way too much of my life in 2013, and although I know all things happen for a reason, if I could go back to the day I met him in 2011 and remove him from my life, I'd do that. I've been intimate with men in the past and had my heart broken, but never have any of them them left me feeling so broken and empty, foolish and worthless, and completely in the wrong. Blah.
Els Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 This actually sounds strange, but I have none. Sure, I 'wasted time' in Rs that eventually didn't work out, but that was part of the learning process. If it hadn't been for those, I would still be clueless about what I want from relationships and how they work. Sounds cliche, but I find it helpful to live life with no regrets. Mistakes in the past make for a better future, if we but learn from them. 2
furby19 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 This actually sounds strange, but I have none. Sure, I 'wasted time' in Rs that eventually didn't work out, but that was part of the learning process. If it hadn't been for those, I would still be clueless about what I want from relationships and how they work. Sounds cliche, but I find it helpful to live life with no regrets. Mistakes in the past make for a better future, if we but learn from them. I would be lying if I said that I didn't have any regrets but I agree with most of your post. I do not regret dating anyone that I have dated. Even though I have been single for a loooooooong time. Dating and getting to know different guys has been beneficial for showing me what I want in a guy. 3
somedude81 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 The dudes will regret not chasing more tail, not going after the hottie they thought would reject them, not having more a high count number. Is there anything wrong with that? The women will regret spending time with a guy who treated them badly. I'll never understand why women stay with bad men. Odds are the girl that got a black eye from her boyfriend will stay with him another month and that just disgusts me.
somedude81 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 No, just shows where mens values lie. "men are dogs" has a grain of truth to it. They dont care for quality- just need a variety of pussy to make them happy. How the hell did you come to that conclusion? From your posts, you seem to have a serious case of misandry. I actually dont know too many women thatd stay with an abuser...I mean more emotional/verbal mistreatment. It's very common. Many women stay with men who are physically, emotional and mentally abusive and I have no real idea why. Though this isn't the right thread to talk about this issue.
newmoon Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 biggest regret... begging my ex to take me back when I didn't even do anything wrong. i hate that i did that because it cost self-esteem for no reason and made me look far more interested in him than i actually was. my ego was bruised by the break-up more than my heart, but i did it anyway
ThaWholigan Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I don't really have a regret. I was/am a late bloomer, and sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if I lost my virginity at like 13/14 like everybody else that I knew. Perhaps my understand of sex would not be as nuanced as it is now - I am not sure. It's not really a regret of mine though. My regrets stem from outside of dating.
GoodOnPaper Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 The dudes will regret not chasing more tail, not going after the hottie they thought would reject them, not having more a high count number. The women will regret spending time with a guy who treated them badly. What guy wouldn't want the option of having a high count number? I've never felt the urge to have variety for variety's sake, but having a higher count number would have shown me that I could choose who to spend my life with instead of having to take who would have me. My regret is not taking the longer view of things when I was single. That I could have reached a "late bloomer" point when it came to dating never even occurred to me.
ThaWholigan Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 What guy wouldn't want the option of having a high count number? I've never felt the urge to have variety for variety's sake, but having a higher count number would have shown me that I could choose who to spend my life with instead of having to take who would have me. My regret is not taking the longer view of things when I was single. That I could have reached a "late bloomer" point when it came to dating never even occurred to me. Not having a high number wouldn't stop me from being able to choose. I understand the thinking behind this however.
kassy Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Not having enough fun sex... I dated conservative men in my 20's and wish I dated someone a bit kinkier before reaching my 30's. As far as regrets go not too bad I guess. On the not dating front, I regret gaining weight and having to work so damn hard to get it off
OpheliaSong Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I regret nothing. Each bad or disappointing dating experience just showed me what I don't want for my future. 1
writergal Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I have regret for all the things that I didn't do. And rather than live inconsolable, and apathetically, I force myself to look forward to the uncertainty in front of me. That's all I have to go on. I can't go back to pain and regret. 1
BillJJ Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I have a criminal record and there are many things I regret but the biggest thing was not being able to save my first girlfriend as I watched her die in the hospital and even though I know it wasn’t my fault and I have moved on a part of me is always going to blame myself. She was my best friend for the first 17 years of my life and I loved her.
winny Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 ~ Being too forgiving ~ Ignoring red flags ~ Believing excuses ~ Not having the courage to end things and move on
skydiveaddict Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 (edited) As far as past or current relationships, flings, friendships, etc., what do you regret the most? Just curious what both men and women have to share. That I ever dated her in the first place. All the emails, phone calls, skype etc while I was out of the country, it was all a lie. Edited December 30, 2013 by skydiveaddict
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