xRJ85x Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 (edited) Been a while since I've been on here, but got some great advice from some good people last time. Short story regarding my concern, I've been dating this incredible girl for a little over a month now. We've been on six awesome dates (a couple ending in sex), and it feels like everything is progressing well. With this past week being a holiday and her off work for a couple weeks, I thought it would be the perfect time to start progressing things a little more (spending more time together). Unfortunately, this meant the exact opposite. We hung out for a couple hours one night just watching TV, and were able to go to the gym together another day. But one night she had to bail on me because of an unexpected family dinner, and a couple days ago turned down a great date idea I had because of an annual holiday party hosted by her friend. Needless to say, I'm kind of down because this went the opposite from how I planned it this past week. My friends think I'm just overreacting because its a busy time, which I totally understand. So I was hoping for some tips from those in relationships on how to progress things and avoid falling into a rut. Its been a long time since I've progressed anything past the dating phase and I'm not sure how to steer it. I'm totally cool with taking things slow, in fact she's been doing almost all of the contact initiating. But with her turning down a couple things recently, I don't know what to do next without coming off looking needy by continually asking for date after date, and after things slowing up (if you would even say they have) how to avoid falling into some kind of rut. Thanks for any advice, guys. Edited December 29, 2013 by xRJ85x
d0nnivain Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Come up with creative / different or special date ideas. Most dates tend to be a variation on dinner & a movie. Add in some active dates: bowling, a night at an arcade, beach, playing some other sport together. Every so often as budget allows go for "bigger" dates: theater, amusement park, concert etc. Take some time to explore a new town near you. You'd be surprised how much fun you can have playing tourist even close to home. For example, even though I have lived in the NE most of my life, the day after Thanksgiving, DH & I explored the FlatIron section of NYC (you have seen the iconic triangular building in photos). We really had a blast; it keeps our relationship from getting stale & we make great new memories.
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