jassy Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Im sorry this is so long, but PLEASE READ & HELP! My bf & I started dating Oct 2012. He broke up with me in June because he wanted to do his own thing. He started talking to other females & their was this 1 female he became very close with. It hurt my heart SOOOO bad. Him & I stay in the same barracks (Army) so I would see this girl almost everyday coming in & out his room & staying the night. He them became very rude & ignorant toward me. My heart was destroyed. I couldn't eat or sleep the entire summer. I started drinking & smoking more & more & was suggested to enroll in an alcohol program before it became real bad (yes I was that heart broken) August came & I started seeing another guy. My ex saw me with him & that completely hurt him. He realized how wrong he was & toward the end of august he apologized to me & asked for another chance. I ended up forgiving him & said ok The beginning of September & we're dating again. I'll admit, he was treating me better than ever. Soon I learned that his mom & the girl he left me for is close friends with his mom over FB. I felt uncomfortable with that because him & I been seeing each other since last year & I never met or spoke to his mom. (We're in the Army & far away from family). I asked him how did his mom & this girl meet & he said "her & I were friends on FB. She found my mom, requested her, & they became friends. I never introduced them 2 each other". So that still felt kind of awkward because him & I were NEVER friends on FB...even when we wasn't together before. So now my bf adds me on FB this time. I wanted to finally introduce myself to his mom, but I felt kind of uncomfortable. I didn't want to request her on FB like the last girl did. I wanted to properly meet her in person, but being so far from home I knew it wouldn't happen no time soon. So I just requested her & introduced myself to her. 1 day my bf goes out with his friend & leaves his phone home with me because my phone was broke. Suddenly he gets a phone call from that girl! I answer & she asks to speak to him. I said "No" & hung up the phone. I then txted her, cursed her out, & told her 2 not call this phone again. The next day my bf gets a call from his mom. She says to him "U need 2 talk 2 your gf because what she did was wrong & immature. & this is the girl u want to marry!? She needs 2 apologize". What had happened was the that night when the girl & I was going back & forth through the txts, she screenshot the texts & sent them 2 his mom! & then his mom calls him. So my bf then calls the girl & apologizes 2 her for the things I said 2 her. So im at work & get a phone call from him & he explains to me what just happened. How the girl showed his mom, what his mom said 2 him, & that he apologized 2 her. He even said to me "What u did was immature & being that I know u won't apologize, I did it for you. I GOT FURIOUS!!!!!! No reason what so ever she just had 2 involve his mom in this Now I'm just COMPLETELY uncomfortable with his mom being friends with her because its obvious she's trying 2 get back with him through his mom. I tried talking to him about it & he says "I dont care. I cant control who my mom is friends with. U shouldn't let that effect us" I stopped talking 2 his mom. A few days later I'm on FB & see that the girl wrote on his moms wall & says she'll be coming home for Christmas break & is going 2 by her house so they can actually meet face 2 face. I got even more furious when I saw that! I spoke 2 my bf about it & told him how it made me feel. I said 2 him exactly "Look this girl is crossing the line! She's only friends with your mom in hopes 2 get back with u. She is playing a game & disrespecting our relationship. U need 2 call her & let put her in check on this! If this continues it can become a problem!" He completely brushed it off & continued 2 do nothing about it. Now I feel completely uncomfortable & insecure in this relationship which led to more and more arguments & fights 1 time his mom calls his phone telling him "Hey so & so wants 2 call u just 2 check up on u, but she said she knows how your gf is." My bf told me that & I got PISSED! 1st off what gf would allow some girl your bf use 2 mess with call his phone just 2 chat!? What girl would be ok with that!? My bf & I started arguing more & more & it then turned into a breakup. Yes I'm completely sad about it. He blames me for everything saying "U were 2 busy worried about the wrong things! I was treating u good & giving my all, but you're worried about this girl, her friendship with my mom, & what her intentions are! U completely broke my heart because I never gave my all 2 no female like this! I wanted to marry u & u allowed these outside people to interfere!" I want us 2 work out but he won't even try 2 understand me. Am I wrong??
darkmoon Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 you are not immature at all, it is manipulative to say that, you were dating a mother's boy, but fury does not work, looks harsh, let things settle down and try again he did try to be nice so try to understand him
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