JesRabbit Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Now me and my ex were discussing getting back together recently and we are still working on it. If you read my other posts, you would know that he is by far no angel from sleeping with his ex while weren't together but claimed he still loved me and missed me because I moved to another city and am now long distance. Well, my ex is a poet and he had written poetry about every girl that he fell in love with and one of the girls, from 10 years ago, appeared on his Facebook friendslist recently. Mind you, he told me he really loved the girl before they broke up and she ended up in prison for killing her landlord and she is out of jail now. They only had a 5-month relationship. To him, he believed that he would never get her back because he thought she would be in prison forever. I asked him about it because the friendship appeared on my newsfeed and I asked him since she's out of jail now, does he want to rekindle his love for her and does she still feel the same about him. He said he wants her for nothing more than a friend and nothing else. I asked him does he choose me over her to be with and he said yes. I told him that if we did get back together, I wouldn't feel comfortable with him being friends with her. Looking at her profile, she is also married, but the husband left her and she has a new man now but still married. Also, being on this board has helped me to open my eyes that just because someone is married or seeing someone, does not stop an affair from happening. He has told me she talked to him about her problems and nothing more, but now I'm insecure about her, because he did tell me about her before she reappeared and it seemed he really cared for her. So, my gut feeling is telling me to step away for awhile and let him see where his heart really is. I was thinking of moving back to my hometown to be back with him, but now that this woman is back, I don't know if it's worth it. I just want to know what should I do. 1
smuggy95 Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 it's good to listen to your gut feelings, especially if it's just telling you to slow down a bit and assess the situation. These people have no respect for boundaries- i would be suspect of them too.
devilish innocent Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Like the other poster said, it's always good to pay attention to your gut about these things. I also read your other posts about him, and to be honest, I think there's a good reason why you're gutting is speaking out about him. He doesn't seem trustworthy at all.
Author JesRabbit Posted December 29, 2013 Author Posted December 29, 2013 Like the other poster said, it's always good to pay attention to your gut about these things. I also read your other posts about him, and to be honest, I think there's a good reason why you're gutting is speaking out about him. He doesn't seem trustworthy at all. Yeah, he talks all this good crap about getting married and starting a family, but it's BS. So my gut is just telling me to let this other woman have him since he was so in love with her. But I must be honest with myself, I really do want us to work because I love him and he made me feel wonderful when we were together, but he has to want it too. I'm not looking for him to come back, but I'm saying if he tries and really work at it, I may give him a second chance because I know that no one is perfect and we all have things come up in our past that we may need to sort out. But as of now, I'm distancing myself from it all and focusing on myself.
Angry bird Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Yes, space is needed for yourself. He will see her whether you are with him or not. And if you pull away, he will see you respecting yourself and he will have more respect for you in the long run.
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