I received a text from X Loser

[Angry bird]

All day yesterday I was thinking of doing a New Year's Eve ritual.

 

(Ritual: burning his photo along with a list of things I loved and hated about him, throwing the burnt pieces in the elements outside and then go home to light a white candle)

 

Anyhow, I get a texted asking how I was doing. I was SO happy to ignore it. I wanted to do cartwheels. I was in shock for a moment, then I though, he's just tugging at that good ol chain. I am six months post-BU, and I have learned my lesson. They don't love us anymore...It's over. He doesn't really care how I'm doing, he cares about how I feel about him so he can feel powerful. So he can get an ego boost. That is what he cares about! sayonara muchachos! You don't deserve me.

[JDPT]

I saw move forward with the ritual, with safety precautions of course. I'm glad to hear that you realize that he is simply lurking around wanting to make himself feel better more than anything. Continue to be strong and good luck with your ritual.

[Angry bird]

I'm totally moving forward. I met a really handsome man online. I find him so attractive. Which is rare for me. I can't wait to meet up for coffee with him. I still love my x loser, BUT I know what I need to do for my own long term happiness.

 

What happened, still brings me a feeling of sadness,but it wasn't me, it was him. I wish he behaved differently, but he didn't. I can't do anything about. I want tobe with someone who is good to me.

[JDPT]

And you shouldn't settle for anything less than that. I think you have strong fundamental concept as to what it is you need to do to continue to propel yourself forward. It's a good sign that you are starting to find other people attractive. It took me roughly 7 months post BU to find another woman attractive like I used to in the past. Some make progress faster than others. We are heading in the right direction.

[LadyM]

It sounds like you're so strong and doing so well.

 

Very happy for you.

[Angry bird]

I was not with the X Loser very long, 6 months. And it is 6 months post break up and I still feel the sadness from time to time.

 

So, I really don't think I am that strong, but, I want to be happy and have fun again.

 

I take this experience as a learning experience.

 

The lesson for me...

1. Actions will speak the truth more than words

2. Put your well being as a priority

3. And when it is not what you want, walk away and trust that someone better will come in time.(this is a big one for me)

4. It's better to be alone than to be unhappy--wanting something from someone who does not have it to give.

 

 

I'm still a work in progress

[Angry bird]

Another thing I noticed I stopped doing was checking the Second Chances dialogue. I think I began to accept, It is over.

[HorseLuck]

Can I...do cartwheels with you?

 

Same thing with me. It's been reoccurring lately. I think it's the ex wanting to start the New Year with a clean slate.

[cavalier99]

Another thing I noticed I stopped doing was checking the Second Chances dialogue. I think I began to accept, It is over.

 

 

Good for you. Keep on going.

 

People actually go to the Second Chaces Forum?? I never have visited there once. I think i sensed it is unhealthy. When an RS is OVER it is OVER.

[maturityassets]

Coping forum ftw! lmao I just wanted to say that hehe

Happy for you angry bird. You don't need that ex of yours ever again... He has his hand if he is lonely lol. Go on that date and enjoy the new year! Best of luck!

[StringsAttached]

lmao i love how you call him X loser. I'm going to do the same.