gaius Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I get where you're coming from... but when, exactly, is it EVER okay for a grown man to put his hands around a woman's neck? "Provocation" is entirely beside the point IMO. It's not, but I'm just getting the feeling there's more going on here than was said. I don't know too many guys who just try to throttle a family member who's doing nothing but minding their own business. Not even speaking to the person in question. It just seems odd to me. If you want help with a situation I think you have to be willing to honestly explore all the dynamics at play. My mother used to deliberately harp on everything that bothered my step father relentlessly until after years he finally gave her a whack. I would probably give her much different advice than I would you nes, based on what I remember from your old thread. Even though on the surface both incidents seem the same. You still didn't get very specific about what happened Loves. You were just standing not talking to him and he decided to choke you? You had not had spoken about anything in the recent past? You weren't having any disagreements that were relayed through third parties? If it's just a vent ok but if you do want to make the relationship with him and your family healthier it might to fruitful to explore it a little.
Author LovesHangover Posted January 2, 2014 Author Posted January 2, 2014 It's not, but I'm just getting the feeling there's more going on here than was said. I don't know too many guys who just try to throttle a family member who's doing nothing but minding their own business. Not even speaking to the person in question. It just seems odd to me. If you want help with a situation I think you have to be willing to honestly explore all the dynamics at play. My mother used to deliberately harp on everything that bothered my step father relentlessly until after years he finally gave her a whack. I would probably give her much different advice than I would you nes, based on what I remember from your old thread. Even though on the surface both incidents seem the same. You still didn't get very specific about what happened Loves. You were just standing not talking to him and he decided to choke you? You had not had spoken about anything in the recent past? You weren't having any disagreements that were relayed through third parties? If it's just a vent ok but if you do want to make the relationship with him and your family healthier it might to fruitful to explore it a little. You may think that it's odd. That's great! We agree. It is odd. I don't understand. I don't know. If he had a problem with me, it has never been communicated to me except in this incident. I can't speak on his internal mental processing. I know that he has really had a hard time lately, but he's not the only one to have struggles in life. Perhaps, he is seriously mentally ill and needs mental health care. Other odd behavior from him: - When a friend of mine wished him a Happy Birthday, he ignored her. Acted as if she wasn't there. Just stared right through her. - Another friend spoke to him on a separate occasion, and he didn't respond. Who does this? Who just ignores people who haven't done anything to them? Who ignores people, period? Do you expect me to assume why he behaved this way on any occasion? Or to analyze his mental state? I asked him a couple a times what was wrong and he said nothing so I let it go. I wasn't even looking in his direction right before this incident. You are asking me questions I don't have any answer to. I could speculate anything but I won't. I repeat and stick to that I was not engaging with him and he attacked me. He started the entire incident. I wish you could find out why from him if he would even acknowledge your presence/question. Honestly, the post was to vent. I did not ask for any advice because I am dealing with this in my time and my way. However, it doesn't bother me that people respond. Also, I added information as requested and there is nothing left for me to add. I gave all the information that is in my power to give.
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