skweezd Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 I have a career as a Sleep Tech so it's virtually impossible for my shift to be anything other then the night shift. It had been very frustration trying to establish relationships in the past but this time I think I have found some success. The problem... and I'm sure this can best be answered by my fellow night owls, is that I am having a difficult time dealing with him going out while I am at work. It's not that he's up to no good. The places he goes are local and the few friends that he goes with are all male and faithfully married. But I have some baggage from past relationships that always have me thinking I"ll be cheated on again due to my inability to be at home at night. Or how about this issue, when I do get my nights off, I have this "you were out this week so now it's my turn" attitude. My SO works from home so the nights that he gets out are his only social outlet so I guess my question is, how do others handle the situation of working opposite shifts? Or... how do I stop feeling like I need to get out with friends because it's my time to destress? I'm not young, I don't want to act it. I just want peace with working this shift and balancing a relationship. I truly wonder if it's possible.
CarrieT Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 My longest relationship was with a guy who worked 6:00 p.m. to 3:00 a.m. Honestly, I think the reason we were together so long (11 years) was because we essentially didn't see much of each Monday through Friday and more limited hours on weekend since he was on a different sleep schedule. But it can work, if you find the right kind of partner. For me, I was in grad school so I appreciated the quiet time to do homework. We would then see movies and go out on weekends. In the long run, it didn't work and the relationships should have ended sooner, but that was just us. 1
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