jessiej Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 After 3 years my boyfriend dumped me, he was very cruel during the breakup and said a lot of mean things. We don't talk anymore but I still have him as a friend on facebook. I still miss him so much and am hurting so bad. I hate seeing him like other girls pictures and stuff on facebook, it kills. I don't want to delete him because I want to act like i'm fine with everything, and happy without him, so I kept him as a friend to show him im fine and not upset or immature. But it's becoming too much pain. Should I delete him, or will that look pathetic?
notthathard Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Yes delete, who cares what he thinks anyway. It was the first thing I did when I broke up with my ex, I never regretted it, I'm actually thankful to myself that I did it a couple of days after the breakup. He might even think your moving on rather than trying to make him think your strong by keeping him on there. DO IT! 1
Kizza Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Delete him. He probably feels more powerful that you haven't deleted him. You see what an "amazing life" he is having blah blah blah as facebook generally is. You are not even getting the real picture. Anyway deleting him means you made the last move. It will empower you. oh and also block him...that way if he gets curious one day and types your name in, he won't even be able to find you. I did that to my last. I blocked him and now there is no facebook tie there at all. It's awesome! 1
chris21422 Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Showing him this, Showing him that.. blah blah blah! It's not about him anymore. You don't owe him anything.. Do it because you need to for yourself! What he thinks doesn't matter anymore because it's over. removing him and keeping him in Facebook is not a factor if he wants to get back with you or not so instead of making it hard for yourself Do what's best for you and remove him. 1
LadyM Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 If you don't unfriend or block him now, there is a good chance he will do it to you first. How will that make you feel? Make your decision based on whether or not it would crush you if he blocks you first. 2
Trick1004 Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 It hurts you to see what he's posting on Facebook. He dumped you. Block him on everything. There is nothing pathetic about it. Vanish from his life. Doesn't matter what he thinks. It's about you now, don't prolong the pain. Keep posting here, we've all been through it. Trick 1
TaraMaiden Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 I'd delete your own account, frankly. Jeesh, who needs all this drama? 1
headinthecloud Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Yes, block him or delete your account. 1
True Gent Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Delete him from your friends list. It WILL be better for YOU. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 It won't look pathetic. It will look healthy. Why would you want to keep him as a friend & keep looking at pictures that cause you pain? 1
fixing Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Would you keep a 'friend' on your facebook who was also very cruel to you? NO. You delete them. Even more so with your ex. Dont just delete him, block him, so then you will not see anything he posts or likes, or shared stuff he is in. Seriously, block him. You will be so relieved once you do. Btw, it looks much more pathetic to still be his friend on facebook then to delete him. 1
hurt for loving Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 To get rid of him on fb is the best thing. I did after my break up as it hurts far too much to see him getting on. As hard as it is It will be better for you in the long run 1
Author jessiej Posted December 29, 2013 Author Posted December 29, 2013 thank you so much everyone! I did it and deleted him, and you're all right, I feel so much better! 3
LostConfused123 Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 thank you so much everyone! I did it and deleted him, and you're all right, I feel so much better! That's so awesome! Good job!! You know, I am old enough to remember the days before Facebook and cell phones and if I remember correctly it was much easier to "let go" Meaning if my phone rang and I was out it simply was not answered. You didn't have to block anything. There was no way to see pictures of the ex or even know their whereabouts most of the time. When it was over, it was over. Idk, maybe it was easier because it seemed so final. They really did "disappear" Anyway, you did great and I'm glad you're feeling better ((hugs!!))
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