Ladies & Gents, STOP HOUNDING people that blatantly state their disinterest

[theothersully]

I'll take you and Hokey's advice and next time around I will tell him the truth followed by "if you continue to contact me and essentially harass me, I have no choice but to get the police involved therefore I hereby request as of (date) at (time) you do not contact me, through any medium or in any way shape or form again."

 

No. There is no reason to start a war. If a girl said that to me, I might go ahead and screw with her on purpose for being mean, in a way that can't be traced.

 

You meed to be nicer to people. Then you will have less problems with all people.

[WP4046]

Why do single females want the guy to be amazing to change their single status? lol

[nomadic_butterfly]

No. There is no reason to start a war. If a girl said that to me, I might go ahead and screw with her on purpose for being mean, in a way that can't be traced.

 

You meed to be nicer to people. Then you will have less problems with all people.

 

Are you having a laugh mate??? Clearly...well I don't know where you are from but where I am from stalking and harassing are AGAINST THE LAW.

 

He can very well get deported if he continues this behavior and enough police reports are filed. He is here on a school visa I believe. You must be one of those people who don't understand NO. I was polite enough to say I wasn't interested well before the unconfirmed date vs. what a good number of men have done to me which is lie, disappear, cancel the day of or an hr before, show up hours late, and/or fade out. I don't mince my words.

 

If you think his behavior is appropriate for a 30+ yr old man you have A LOT of growing up to do.

[nomadic_butterfly]

The right thing to do would have been to just tell the truth.

 

You made it see! like it was as him when it wasn't.

 

So... the right thing would be to say you met other guys and were done or that you are quitting dating people from online.

 

The truth is always best. Note, there are no follow up questions to the truth.

 

Women should stop lying and doing nc in these cases. All a guy is looking for is a reason so he can evaluate what happened and move on. You deny him that with either lies or nc.

 

Just tell the truth, then ignore him or yell at him if he does not listen.,

 

 

LOL he hasn't given me any spiels about why??? He is asking me how I am, what am I doing that weekend, etc. He isn't looking for CLOSURE; he is STILL looking for A DATE despite me saying I was not interested very very clearly. So I guess when a woman says no she really means yes???

 

He was harassing WELL BEFORE I even expressed disinterest and I've already said I was turned off with his constant texts while I am busting my balls at work and /i deal with numbers and calculations for some major brands. Aint nobody got time for that.

Edited December 29, 2013 by nomadic_butterfly

[Eggplant]

Why do single females want the guy to be amazing to change their single status? lol

Because

 

1. It's a pain to have to backtrack out of a relationship.
   
2. It's taxing to invest emotions in somebody that is ultimately not going to last.
   

Best advice I ever got was from my dad: don't commit until you're sure.

[KatZee]

This is not designated to a culture. Tons and tons of guys do this. I had a guy legit go PSYCHO on me, and I hadn't even agreed to go out with him. We spoke for maybe 15 minutes via text while I was at work. I got up to go to a meeting, and 25 minutes later I came back to over FORTY text messages on my phone.

 

Apparently he had issues with a person and instead of messaging them, he had sent those nasty texts to me. I told him very nicely that I didn't want to take it any further, and good luck on the site.

 

He then started verbally attacking me saying that I would never in my life get the caliber of man he was to message me ever again, and that we both knew that.

 

He alternated between spewing vicious insults, calling me an "unappreciative f.uck" to saying that I should talk to him and give him a chance, that I would like him.

 

I then blocked him on the dating site, and started taking screen shots of all his messages because he was getting pretty unstable. For the next TWO DAYS he switched between hating me and begging me to talk to him, to let him take me out to dinner, etc etc.

 

He then saw I blocked him on the site and he flipped his s.hit 100x worse, saying that he had gone on to block ME but saw I had already done it, and that I was crazy. ME! LMFAO!

 

I still was not even responding to him and he went away for a couple days and then came back apologizing for his PTSD outburst and that he wanted me as a friend and that dinner was on him. I still did not respond.

 

He went away for about 2-3 weeks and actually just resurfaced a few days ago. He shut down his old OLD account and made a new one to message me. He said his account was "hacked" so he needed to make a new one. He then proceeded to message me once a day for the next three days. I haven't responded to one of them.

 

Some people are legitimately unstable and psycho. Your guy wasn't even that persistent, he responded once and that was it. Imagine if you had to deal with what I went through!?

[nomadic_butterfly]

Your guy wasn't even that persistent, he responded once and that was it. Imagine if you had to deal with what I went through!?

 

HMmm...he responded initially as if he understood but then still blows my phone up to-date. Granted he isn't being belligerent but constantly calling and texting after someone tells you they are not interested and then texting me on all my apps is equally annoying.

 

I would suggest you do as the others have told me and report him to the police if he keeps harassing you. It does sound worse.