gregt10 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 (edited) Hi all, again.. advice needed.. she confuses me like no other has before.. (again sorry for the post length!) Same girl as this post: (sorry for the spam?) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/450177-mixed-signals-what-do-you-think#post5416824 We had our christmas party last week and everything seemed to be going great. She chose to sit next to me at dinner, obviously we were talking quite a bit. Both one on one and to the group we were with. We then headed to the pub and were out for most of the night. She seemed happy all night while i was with her. We ended up spending most of the night together slightly away from the group we were with, it got to the stage where she was touching me very very frequently, cuddling up to me, hugging, stroking me whilst with the biggest grin on her face. She even asked me if i wanted to go to her other work party after I have finished work. - where did that come from?! At this stage I was sure that she may like me whilst I remained unsure of exactly what I wanted from her, (don't really know why but I am still unsure on her :love:) The night was cut short due to a unfortunate trip to hospital for a friend so it wasn't a great ending to the night but hey.. it happens. I text her the next morning saying that I had a good time and asked her if she wanted to go out sometime soon, to which she promised me that she would be free sometime this week and we could go out. She then suggested a day (which would of been today) to which I agreed and we left it there. Christmas comes up, we are both with families so nothing else was said for a few days. We had a another work-do on yesterday, which 5/6 of us went to. (just a all day session). She text me earlier in the day wishing my a merry Christmas and hoped that I had a good one. Whilst asking me what the plans were for today so I gave her the details and said to her I shall see her later. She turned up later on and brought her sister with her as well. We all had a good laugh and it was a good night, again, she didn't back out of any chance to tease me. One thing that caught my attention was that her sister called me by my nickname (this was the first time I had met her sister), this was a nickname that only previously she has called me. So.. surely they have been talking about me otherwise how else would she know that? (they are both quite close so if she is mentioning me then surely that's a good sign.. right?) Anyway, towards the end of the night i asked her if we were still going out tomorrow (today) to which she said that she couldn't go now so I was quite confused. She seems to be blowing hot and cold, she organises the time and day but then backs out which kinda confuses me, especially because of how she was the other night with me. We went our seperate ways, I text her this morning (i was hungover, in no condition to chat so i thought texting would be ok) I asked her if she had a good night whilst asking her "are we ever going to go out again, or do you not want to?" to which she replied "i dont know. I'm sure we can go out sometime in the new year! :)" - indecisive or what? I told her that she was confusing to which her reply was that im sorry i am not meaning to be confusing and didnt realise she was like that. The conversation quietened down and that was that. Whilst i think that she may like me due to how she acts around me I am starting to question that. The way she organises the dates and then cannot do it for one reason or another, suggests a new day and we will see where that goes. This has had an effect on me, whilst it has made me question how she feels it has made me think about her a lot more recently, if anything it is making me like her more than previously. so if she is doing this on purpose its working a treat. Could she be playing hard to get and making me chase her, or could she just be playing with me? Part of me is willing to go for the chase if that is the case but part of me is still unsure on how i feel about her. I know you will say just ask her but getting her alone is seeming difficult at the minute, i don't really want to ask her on the phone and would rather ask her in person. If i didn't have to shoot off the other night I would of spoken to her then but as always, there is always something that pops up. So.. any advice on what i should do? Thanks, Greg Edited December 28, 2013 by gregt10
Parkour Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Sounds like she is a little distracted or just being lazy. I've had similar stories like this too. She obviously likes you but question is how much? Trouble is you need her on another date to show what a fun time she can have with you. Try to sell the date if you can or haven't already but same time don't go overboard. For example 'I know this amazing bar down town, you'll be impressed, can I take you on a date there next saturday'. Difficult to know what her real reasons are but women love to be courted, give her a compliment and everyone loves a date. So keep doing what you're doing my friend! If she likes you and you put the effort in it will work out. Keep us updated! Good luck!
GemmaUK Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 At this stage I was sure that she may like me whilst I remained unsure of exactly what I wanted from her, (don't really know why but I am still unsure on her :love:) I think she is getting this vibe from you.
Author gregt10 Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 I think she is getting this vibe from you. very true.. i do enjoy spending time with her and i am thinking of her much more than i previously have done. the next time that i will see her unless i try and organise new years eve with her will be in a week or so and that will only be at work, so i wont be able to get her alone to talk to... if i keep asking her to meet up i feel like i will be pestering her which is definetly not what i want to be seen doing. confusing ! but thanks for the replies, any other advice would be appreciated
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