what can i do to get her back?

[phenom]

So my last Friday my girlfriend broke up with me saying that she felt tied down, wasn't ready for a serious relationship. I the brake up text she said that she didn't want to give me false hope for a future that she didn't know if she wanted to be a part of. I didn't respond to it and initiated NC but about a hour later I got another text from her saying that I was still going to get my Christmas Present. I sent a text back saying no that she should keep her money and that it would be too hard. she responded and said " but I already got it for you", I didn't respond and Went back to doing NC. As the days went on I began to get better and better, regaining a lot of my confidence back, etc. I then decided to send her a text on Christmas that said "Merry Christmas!", I did this even though it broke NC because I wanted to let her know I was still alive and show as best I could over text that I was hurt. She responded a few minuets later with "Merry Christmas to you too. " and I haven't texted back since.

 

Since then even though it has been only a few days I feel so much better and I accept that the break up should have happened, no because I wanted it too but because it has allowed me to gain my confidence back and go back to my old self that attracted her in the first place and have been able to see a future without her in it even though I would like her to be present, but im not begging.

 

So basically with that said I would like to give my analysis on the relationship. towards the end(we were together for 2 1/2 months), I was getting very clingy and needy/insecure, for no reason at all. I believe that turned her off. What I cant understand is the Monday before she broke up with me she was joking about how when she got back off vacation that we were going to have a engagement party and acted so normal, later that day in school (last day of the semester) she decided to sit with her friends, kind of got me upset I do admit and I overreacted later that day by asking her If she was mad and even asked her if she loved me and stuff and said I needed to know since I could be insecure, yes I did say that lol. that week she began to get more and more distant until Thursday when she asked me to leave her alone since she wanted to be with her friends when we were on a field trip to see a movie, I left her alone but did notice she acted distant toward them too (lagging behind them, not seeming interested in them). she then texted me on Friday asking me if I was coming sunday to her Grandparents Christmas and I said no that I should probably not go. and she said that she understood and we began to discuss the events that happened over the week until I asked her if she was breaking up with me and she said yes along with what I said above.

 

so basically what are your guys opinion on the situation? to get her back I know that I need to become the man I was before to get her back and am making great strides at doing that. I also forgot to mention that she is very independent however she was the one that really got the relationship going (saying I love you first, kissing, hugging, etc. and her dad is also a **** to her and she gets overwhelmed easily with life and is pretty busy. Thanks

[pickflicker]

Well, I would think if you're clingy and insecure, the first thing to do would be the opposite of that, by doing nothing, and investing that energy in yourself by living your life as if she isn't in it (which i guess she isn't). She had to come to you, before you can do anything else.

[Inspiteofrselves]

Please PLEASE listen about the no begging. Trust me, from both sides of the equation it does not work. I would suggest a letter, letting her know you understand her decision, and how you plan to work on YOURSELF. NOT "Fixing yourself for her" or what you'll do to get her back. Just that she means a lot to you, you realize youve done things wrong, and you are taking this split as a lesson you will use to improve yourself.