phenom Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 So my last Friday my girlfriend broke up with me saying that she felt tied down, wasn't ready for a serious relationship. I the brake up text she said that she didn't want to give me false hope for a future that she didn't know if she wanted to be a part of. I didn't respond to it and initiated NC but about a hour later I got another text from her saying that I was still going to get my Christmas Present. I sent a text back saying no that she should keep her money and that it would be too hard. she responded and said " but I already got it for you", I didn't respond and Went back to doing NC. As the days went on I began to get better and better, regaining a lot of my confidence back, etc. I then decided to send her a text on Christmas that said "Merry Christmas!", I did this even though it broke NC because I wanted to let her know I was still alive and show as best I could over text that I was hurt. She responded a few minuets later with "Merry Christmas to you too. " and I haven't texted back since. Since then even though it has been only a few days I feel so much better and I accept that the break up should have happened, no because I wanted it too but because it has allowed me to gain my confidence back and go back to my old self that attracted her in the first place and have been able to see a future without her in it even though I would like her to be present, but im not begging. So basically with that said I would like to give my analysis on the relationship. towards the end(we were together for 2 1/2 months), I was getting very clingy and needy/insecure, for no reason at all. I believe that turned her off. What I cant understand is the Monday before she broke up with me she was joking about how when she got back off vacation that we were going to have a engagement party and acted so normal, later that day in school (last day of the semester) she decided to sit with her friends, kind of got me upset I do admit and I overreacted later that day by asking her If she was mad and even asked her if she loved me and stuff and said I needed to know since I could be insecure, yes I did say that lol. that week she began to get more and more distant until Thursday when she asked me to leave her alone since she wanted to be with her friends when we were on a field trip to see a movie, I left her alone but did notice she acted distant toward them too (lagging behind them, not seeming interested in them). she then texted me on Friday asking me if I was coming sunday to her Grandparents Christmas and I said no that I should probably not go. and she said that she understood and we began to discuss the events that happened over the week until I asked her if she was breaking up with me and she said yes along with what I said above. so basically what are your guys opinion on the situation? to get her back I know that I need to become the man I was before to get her back and am making great strides at doing that. I also forgot to mention that she is very independent however she was the one that really got the relationship going (saying I love you first, kissing, hugging, etc. and her dad is also a **** to her and she gets overwhelmed easily with life and is pretty busy. Thanks
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 You two sound fairly young (you mention semesters) She may not know what she wants at this point. I'd keep the lines of communication open but don't push. Let her see that you have matured & let her come to you. Meanwhile keep your options open.
legion113 Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Sounds like you became a wimp, you know it, she knew it. Hard to be attractive to a woman when you are being whiny about her spending time with you, or getting upset when she wasn't. Then to even ASK if she's breaking up with you, made you seem like even more of a sap. You knew she was, why did you ask for the final nail in the coffin? She might have been mulling it over but when you asked her point blank, she probably thought, well, now's as good a time as any to dump him. Best thing for you to do is ignore her for now and go out and find your own friends to hang out with, or women. When she sees how much fun you're having without her, she'll probably come a running to see who this "new" guy that is nothing but fun is.
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