Foreverever Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Hello everyone, i am here to seek a lot of help from all the peoples in every way as i am lot broken inside. Let meme start with my story, i was in relationship with this guy from same class in college and were in same group , and were in relationship for two years, it was the worlds awesome relationship, and i was lucky to have such a loyal and honest guy who truly loved me and same he felt for me, but because of a small petty issues in relationship with this guy and also due to my past baggage of insecurity that i would be dumped again as earlier i was once ditched by another guy, i ended up with lot of insecurities n after two years at over a fight i told him i do not want to be with him, this word of mine was not meant to be serious and he took it to be a breakup from my side but it as it was a normal fight that happens in every relationship, but things went bad down the line for 6 months , he tried a lot to put efforts n because of some misunderstanding and disturbed communication we ended up with more fights , but when i realized its way too long we are fighting for small things i decided to do as he wanted n say sorry n patch up as what he wanted and was making an effort for but it was all going in confusion, so i went n told him to clear things and be together, but with the surprised he in just a day before changed his mind n decided to breakup forever, it gave me a shock , although we were fighting n loving but still we were together n he was d one who wanted it more den me, so wen i wanted to make things alright he turned back, he gave up, with d shock n heartbroken, i said him sorry n cried n tried everything to make him realize we r best wen v r together n it can all b alright, but he is way to hurt to get things back, meanwhile his parents came to know about us, and they scolded him and all dis created more drama n he gt pissed of with family issues and me, that he gt drifted away, although he says he is guilty but wants to be friends only and not to be in any relationship and not to get hurt again, its been four months now i m trying for him, from last three days i have tried for NC but i love him n miss him allot, i want him to believe n let me put the efforts n make things alright, he gives me mixed signals, his gestures r caring but his words r harsh, wt should i do now i really want him back forever , i cant imagine my life without him i love him tons. Help me .
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 This is the same Q you posted earlier & while it is a bit more understandable your grammar still sucks. However, this time I think I finally got some of what you are trying to say. Sadly, I don't think he's coming back. The only way you will avoid this in the future is to work on overcoming your insecurities. Just because one man dumped you doesn't mean others will. "after two years at over a fight i told him i do not want to be with him, this word of mine was not meant to be serious and he took it to be a breakup from my side but it as it was a normal fight that happens in every relationship, " I couldn't make the quote thing work but your words above ^^^ are not true. Yes, every relationship has its share of disagreements but you don't end a fight by breaking up or threatening to break up. Every time you scream those words at somebody in anger, you weaken the relationship. The fact that both of his parents disapproved of his relationship also had an impact on him. They saw something they didn't like & may have changed his perspective about you. Also at some point all the drama gets old. People don't need that level of stress. 1
Author Foreverever Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 I understand what you said, but it had been all so good, i understand he has been in stress even i had been too, we both struggled for each other and at the end it was on the verge of getting perfect, i want him to open up and share his troubles, i understand him i love him and i care for him, i want him to have little faith in himself and also in me, and give our beautiful relationship a chance. i apologize for my English, it is not my native language.
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 It wasn't the English so much as the combo of a non native speaker & the text speak. Sorry I was harsh. Anyway, it wasn't perfect. If it had been you would not have been insecure, you two wouldn't have been fighting & his parents wouldn't have objected to your relationship. My best advice although it's painful & not what you wanted to hear is that you need to learn from the mistakes in this relationship, hang on to the good memories, let go of the rest & spend some time healing so you will be ready for your next relationship.
stillafool Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 (edited) Forget it! Edited December 28, 2013 by stillafool
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