ExpatInItaly Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 He probably does, and I am upset about it. I am 20 years old and he is 26. I am just really saddened by all of this. It hurts me to know that I am not appreciated by him and that I don't matter. That's exactly why you need to keep your distance. Honestly, if he's 26 and behaving this way...let's just say he's got a lot of maturing to do. I realize it's hurtful but people like him are emotional drainers. You don't need a "friend" like him. 1
KatZee Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Tons of people hold people to certain standards and then behave as if they can do whatever the hell they want. My ex was like this. He would go off on me, criticize me, and tell me what was wrong with ME, and then he would turn around and behave that way plus things 10x worse. Obviously you don't know this guy as well as you thought you did, and he also already admitted to being a douchebag. So this can't be COMPLETELY surprising. Better off that he showed his true colors now rather than if you had actually been his girlfriend and dating for months and months and so emotionally invested.
Author Purple_Haze Posted December 29, 2013 Author Posted December 29, 2013 Tons of people hold people to certain standards and then behave as if they can do whatever the hell they want. My ex was like this. He would go off on me, criticize me, and tell me what was wrong with ME, and then he would turn around and behave that way plus things 10x worse. Obviously you don't know this guy as well as you thought you did, and he also already admitted to being a douchebag. So this can't be COMPLETELY surprising. Better off that he showed his true colors now rather than if you had actually been his girlfriend and dating for months and months and so emotionally invested. Sorry you went through that! That must've been awful! Well I thought I did know him cause I knew him for a year. I do have emotions involved in this, cause I have been wanting to go out with him, but I was unsure of his actions and he is unstable. Like he has Bipolar disorder, so I was weary, because he would call me up crying about his problems and I felt so terribly bad for him, but I saw his illness shine through that and it kinda scared me. I was torn cause I loved him as a friend and I enjoyed his company cause he is so much fun to hang out with, but I saw that there might be no future with him. I still held onto hope though, for some reason, like I can't let go of him or something cause we have a special bond, but in the same breathe all he does is confuses me. He shows me how much he likes me and loves me and then he'll back away. It's been like this for awhile. He'll get really close and come on strong to the point where it's too much then he'll back away and not speak to me for a period of time that can be anywhere from 2 weeks to 2 months. Ever since this drunken stupor he has contacted my dad and my brother and even asked my brother out somewhere, and that kinda hurts me, cause its like why do you want to hang with my brother and not me? But then again I don't know if I should take it personally cause everytime he did ask me out I declined, so I don't know if he just automatically assumes "she wont go out with me, so why bother asking" When I would, cause I am close to him now, but I don't know if he thinks that? Or if it's cause of my drunken stupor and it kinda put him off, like he doesn't know where to go with that. I am so confused about him. He always gives mixed signals. But thank you for commenting again! I appreciate your input, and sorry again about your ex, that's ****ed up that your ex did that!
Happy01 Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 .... I never went out one on one with him, but when I did agree to go out with him one on one he would back out or blow me off, and I let that go..... Purple ... this speaks volumes about where his head is. He strings you along, asks you out, and if you say yes, he "backs out". In my opinion, you're his Plan B when no one else will help him or give him attention. Walk away, my friend. If I'm wrong, he'll contact you again. 1
stillafool Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 Please move on from this guy. I don't mean to hurt you but isn't it obvious to you that he doesn't want to be bothered? I don't think it's just the "drunk text" that is turning him off to you. When a guy does not show an interest in being with you, making you his girlfriend, follow up with communication, he does not want to be bothered. You are 20 years old and there are many, many guys out there. Go out and live your life. One other thing, even though some men get drunk and act stupid, to me and most men I know; it's even uglier when women do it. So stop comparing your drunk bad behavior to his. Stop getting drunk! It will ruin your looks and your mind. Do you want to end up an alcoholic? I didn't think so.
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