Silia Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 I met a boy more than a year ago and I fell deeply in love with him. He wasn't the relationship-type guy,he rather wanted to have fun. I was so in love with him that i made a mistake,I wanted to pleased him an I thought by doing so,we could certainly make out together. Not that I slept with him but I actually took out my clothes in-front of the webcam. This thing has been haunting my every-time. Then,days later,we started talking less. But I was still in love with him. It took me months to forget him,then I started talking to one of his good friend,we became like addicted to each other,we couldn't both stay without each other. We decided to get into a relationship,and we were like both crazy about each other,we started to love each other so much that we promised to stick together forever. Yet,I could never gather enough courage to tell him about what happened between his friend and me. Everything was going well,but one day his friend and him went for a drink and the latter told him everything. Since them,he feel cheated. He says he love me but he cannot accept my past because every time he sees his friend,he feels cheated again and again. I know that I haven't had a good past but when we were together,i was faithful to him and I really love him. We both already made up plans for the future,I can't see them being shattered so easily.
margot13 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Wow, that is so mean of him. It was in the past before you met him. We all make mistakes in our past so that we make better choices in our future.. You need to stop worrying about your mistake and try to have a mature conversation with him (if he is open to it) you didn't cheat on him. That is just crazy. And if he doesn't understand he really is not worth your time. 3
Blastbeat Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Yeah, you haven't done anything wrong. Be firm with him. Make sure you let him know it's not your fault if he feels that way. Maybe just say you were worried to tell him before
headinthecloud Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Margot is right. If he is making this into an issue its because he is insecure, and that is not your problem to fix. I would tell him to either accept what happened and enjoy each other or move on. Everyone makes mistakes, so stop blaming yourself. It's not your fault. Just learn from the experience. He does not have the right to be upset with you so dont let him. It sounds like you need to work on your self confidence. You should be comfortable in your own skin before you have a relationship. But don't allow people to judge you, it's not fair to you. Stand up for yourself, you are good enough. Believe in yourself. 1
pickflicker Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Ok, so has he decided that he doesn't want to be with you anymore because of the webcam incident? I am wary of relationships that are described as being "addicted" to one another. I'm also thinking that you weren't together with the 2nd guy for very long? Making future plans that early, I'm wary of too. Personally, I don't believe in past actions impacting future ones. For what it's worth, don't feel bad about any mistakes, just learn from them. And yes, plans can be shattered that easily. It's unfortunate, but definitely not uncommon.
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