Falling Apart

[Bretton823]

Alright, well, I have a group of friends that consists of 5 people. Me, my friends Nick, Sean, Chase, and Michael. It may sound stupid, but the name of our group is The Furious Five. It started out as a joke at first, but then it just stuck.

 

The problem is that only me and Nick take it so seriously. Back when we were in grade 8, we all took it seriously and hung out every day, but now none of them want to hang out as often. It's not that they stopped liking us, I know that for a fact, it's just, I don't know. Michael is always playing video games, Sean is always smoking pot and in his own troubles and Chase is always with his girlfriend and Basketball team.

 

I know they'll hang out with Nick and I again, it's just I don't know how to convince them to get back to their old ways: Any suggestions?

[nescafe1982]

How old are you, btw?

 

Cliques tend to do this... be very tight and friendly for a while, but then they fall apart. It's natural for people to be led in different directions over time, especially if you're young.

 

I'd be worried about Sean... but as for the rest of the gang? Maybe you're feeling some nostalgia for how good things were before, but you have to accept each other as things change. If you want a "reunion tour" you could invite them all out for pizza or something... but it's probably unreasonable to expect that you five will ever go back to hanging out everyday, all day again. I'd focus on accepting the friendships as they change... rather than trying to changing the friendships back into something they stopped being a while ago.

[Imsojdm]

People grow older and drift apart

[preraph]

Yup, cliques have a shelf life. The younger you are, the less likely you are to still be that close ever again because the age of most rapid changes is teens and twenties. Stop clinging to the group. Don't give up on them, but back off and most importantly, go make new friends because you can always use new friends.