doramam Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 Please give me some advice, my posts keep getting ignored on here, not sure why! Basically, my ex split up with me last Thursday after a blazing row (my fault) and hes said he doesnt want us going round in circles. We have a habit of being happy, then my paranoia gets the better of me and I go mad and we fall out. But now hes had enough. He says hes lost all respect for me cos i was begging for him back. So ive tried to grow a pair and stand on my own two feet. Ive got money together to enable me to leave and i have been doing my own thing, seeing my friends again and getting my life back. Hes been acting strange. Hes been getting drunk just about everyday, fliping from being creepily nice to me to really cold with me. Then when i was out on boxing day, he was txting me having a go at me for leaving the dogs while he was at work (2hrs!!). I told him last night that i had the money to move out and i was possibly going to stay in the area. He wasnt happy about this and said why woukd he want to bump into me? I asked what the bother was n he said he didnt want to see me. Then i saw this morning that he'd made a huge dinner and practically didnt touch it. Why is he wanting me to leave but acting so strange with me? This is doing my nut. I miss him so much. I could just constantly cry. Link to post Share on other sites
margot13 Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 My advice would be to get a little control over the confusion and just think about yourself and moving on, games and confusion are always part of a break up and as women we want to OVER THINK everything. Stop wanting his approval, you only have to approve of your own actions and decisions. And we all make mistakes, you are only human. I am sure he has his share of faults as well, but he seems to like reminding you of yours. Good luck, hope this helps. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppyolive Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 I agree with ^^^Margot, focus on yourself, give him space and work out your next steps into your new journey. I went through a similar situation with my ex behaving like this, together 5 year, all wonderful, agreements frequently about his drinking (about once per month he would get 16 year girl wasted) Promised to change, never did, Broke up in anger (he did) , I gave him space, He lived with me for another month whilst looking for a new home. He would act all sweet and nice to partying more than usual, cold, angry, so i gave him even more space......and for 3 months now he has been texting...backed up with anger and coldness...I don't reply.....Ive been N/C...nada So my advice to you is take cover, work on you, leave him be, just because he dumped you doesn't mean he's not going through an emotional time, and all the motions dumpees go through....and stop fishing to figure him out, take it as is....he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, give him space. Look into how you contributed to the failed relationship, be excited to work through that....good luck x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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