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Broke the NC Rule!!!

margot13

By margot13
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margot13 Established Member

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So I broke the NC Rule. And as confronting as it was I am glad....

 

Glad because, it made me finally realize there is no hope!! All the time during the conversation I was trying to find and hear the person I spent my last year in intimacy with. I mean how do we go from being so close and warm to just cold and distant in such a short space of time. NOPE a complete stranger to me.

 

After lots of arguing from his side as to what I have done and not done, I left the conversation saying that I thought it was a shame that he thought that way about me, I didn't think badly of him and cared for him very much, as my time that was spent with him will not be viewed in hatred by myself. I asked him to no longer seek contact, and I will do the same with him.

 

Hours later he messaged me to tell me that he had lost his way and didn't mean to hurt me. And while this is maybe a polite gesture on his part it left me cold. And made me see how he did not respect my request for no contact.

 

And realized, there is no closure other than acceptance that it's time to move on. I can now say although, I am still hurting and upset, I don't want to hear from him anymore, no matter what contact we have he will never say again what I truly want to hear and that is I LOVE YOU.....

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headinthecloud Established Member

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It sounds like you gave yourself the closure you needed. While I'm happy for you, I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling right now. And it will pass so stay strong. For me, I had to start letting go of the person "I thought he was" and accept that that person is gone. The person I loved does not exist.

 

Try to let go of the hope of what could have been and have faith in what will be. You are strong, keep up the great work. You will get over this in time so be patient with yourself. You deserve happiness.

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Poppyolive Established Member

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Beautifully written, and i feel your sadness.....onwards and upwards dear ladies, Lets chuck away 2013 and ring in 2014 with smiles on our faces, passion in our hearts, fire in our souls and light in our eyes....new adventures await us.....

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