ktya Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Ok, ladies, guys, any tips on guys hitting on waitresses? I know they are at work, usually at a bar dealing with drunk people. I have a fetish for waitresses (lets not get into the psychology of it) and ive gotten well along with quite a few but every time i tend to miss the mark when i try for the date.
Eggplant Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 To satisfy your fetish, you can have your significant other dress up as a waitress. Or if you really need a real waitress, go profile-browsing on OLD and find a woman who mentions she works as a waitress. Or you could meet a girlfriend and connect and then arrange for her to get a job as a waitress. I do no recommend hitting on strangers who are waiting tables. That puts them in an awkward position. Plus waitresses and waiters are always so nice and friendly, because they want a big tip. 3
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Hitting on waitresses - tips? Triple them. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Try to find a way to ask her out when her shift is over.
Author ktya Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 Weve got to have more grey matter in the loveshack brain trust on this one... I remember over the years loads of guys getting hooked up with waitresses so i know it can be done. The suggestion on tripling the tips certainly would work, although i think youd have to keep going back and hypertipping the same girl before making the move which if she has a boyfriend or says no could get pretty expensive. Figuring out when the shift change is and trying to get her number or buying her a drink when shes off might have promise. The problems ive had before is that they are flirty for tips (obviously). They keep me going even if ive hit on them pretty hard, like telling them i want to take them out and either putting my number on the bill or giving them my business card. Then when i try to close the deal and get a yay or nay they drop that they have a boyfriend or whatever. I dont feel sorry for them at all if they play along with me hitting hard on them three or four times and they neglected to advise me that they arent single. A simple, "aww shucks that would be nice but i have a boyfriend" could have avoided them all the hassle. I dont go trying to nail every waitress dont get me wrong. Some rub me the right way so i often try to ask them out. Maybe 1/20. Theres this one i totally want to try to pick up in a couple of weeks. She seemed to remember a lot of details about me last time i was up to check on my boat. When i was paying the bill and said i had to check on my mistress (the boat) she got this cold face and said in an icy tone, "and whos she?". When i told her i was talking about the boat she zapped right back to smiling. Ive flirted with her before and shes even sat down at my table and on my birthday i bought her a shot for my birthday to do with me and she ordered some drink with a name like money shot or something got down on her knees in front of me and knocked it back. I really like that one and given she works a few blocks from the boat could make for some interesting "maintenance" visits lol.
nescafe1982 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Well, a woman will either be into you or she won't. Whether she's a waitress or not. I waitressed for 10 years or so... and if a guy flirted with me and I liked him, I flirted back. If I wasn't into him, continuing advances creeped me out. I guess the thing to do is flirt with the waitress if you like her, but stay attuned to her level of receptiveness. She's being paid to be friendly (most of the time, haha)... but if she's not feeling you, she will be less than forthcoming in flirting back. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 As a former waitress if you put your # on the bill or tried to overly flirt with me up while I was working, I would ignore you . . . .forever other than to serve you your food & get my tip. It's a boundary issue. I'm working & you're in my way. Chat her up enough to find out when she starts, when she gets off, what she likes to do etc. Then when she's not working ask. At that point, even though you may have started off as a customer I also know that I'm not being asked out because I'm convenient or that you think I'm gonna wait on you in our relationship.
Eggplant Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Just be wary of the unfair power dynamic. She is being paid to be friendly and make the customers feel welcome and want to come back. With that comes a certain boundary that should be respected. Don't force her to outright reject you. And don't stop eating there because she didn't accept you personally.
Janesays Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 When I was a waitress/bartender, there was absolutely no way that a guy could approach me romantically and score my number. When I'm in 'work mode,' it's like the sexy portion of my brain turns right off. But I'd sure as heck flirt with you if it meant a big tip.
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