Z_man99 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Hi all, so..... I'm very very confused. I left my girlfriend a week ago, we were having problems for a couple of months, a lot of conflict and arguments, she manipulated me and controlled me, our sex drives were completely mis matched, and I started getting feelings for someone else. so she moved out a couple of weeks ago, and we ended last week... Since then, I've felt very very guilty about it, and I've wondered if I made the right decision.... although her and I had very bad times, and although I felt like crap a lot of the time, we also had very very good times, very fun times.... and she was very caring! A week after the break up, literally today, I had a random girl over who I met online, and we did sexual stuff.... not actually sex, just other foreplay stuff, which ended in myself "finishing" (I dont know if I can say much on this forum).... and the moment I "finished" this guilt washed over me..... I couldn't even talk, I felt like crying my eyes out, and I wished.... I wished so much that it was my ex in bed with me, stroking my hair.. ... I wished I could be woken up by her again in the mornings to her smiling at me and saying "Good morning beautiful" Do you think I should ask her back and try to work on things? Or do you think these feelings and thoughts are normal? and if I do ask for her back, should I tell her what happened with this other girl, and that I felt tremendously bad afterwards etc etc? I'm so lost guys, I'm in tears
smuggy95 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 i don't know...this is a huge decision. It could just be dumper's remorse. Do you really want to go through the whole process of a breakup again? And think of her feelings...unless you are 100% sure it was a mistake- and it sounds like you were very unhappy and listed many legit reasons for a breakup that haven't been resolved yet or will be (like sex drive). Unless those reasons are no longer valid or important then you SHOULDNT get back with her, it won't work, it'll hurt you it'll hurt HER and you'll feel trapped and unhappy all over again. It takes time to fully get over someone, even if you were the dumper.
pickflicker Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 I think this is a pretty human response. It's a huge decision to break up with someone. You're likely to experience some "out there" emotions for a few months at least. Stick to your guns for now. Remind yourself of the reasons why, and remind yourself that regardless of how hurtful dumping someone is, if you don't want to be with them, it's the best course of action.
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