Thegreatestthing Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 I've been talking to him awhile,and I said I don't really want to talk anymore you're not my soulmate bye.anyway he wrote back "but I am your soulmate". Then I replied day later no your not etc,he said "hmm well maybe". It's not that I don't like him,I'm just a bit scared because I do feel strong emotions for him I haven't had in ages,so I was trying to get rid of him,anyway he's not really talking now and I'm wondering if it's because of what I said,
MrMeh Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Simply tell him what you told us. the truth. 1
365daysgone Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 I had a woman do this to me this year. Sends me a text saying it's over, no more relationship. Everything was going amazing though. This led to a 4 hour texting argument that night and 3 hours the next day. She ended up apologizing 2 days later and admitting it was because her emotions were too strong and she felt like she could fall in love with me. In my opinion, that is the most immature, selfish thing to do. Lie and hurt the other person just because YOU are feeling too STRONGLY? So, 1. It is incredibly selfish. 2. It is dishonest and not being open with the other person at all. 3. It is insane. You feel too strongly so you end it? It doesn't even make sense. Why not just tell him you want a little distance to try and calm your emotions down. It is wrong of you to do this. I had the exact same thing happen to me and I made the big mistake to stick around. If it were to happen to me again, I would do what he is doing and be done with you. No second chance. I would disappear too and be done. 4
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 No way,will I tell him that and scare him off.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 You are right about this part,it is really selfish I ignored him for four days just because I didn't like that my feelings were strong,but I was Also worried that it was perfect and I was going to wreck it.so it's not entirely selfish. It's really good will hunting,it's perfect I don't want to ruin it,lose it.but then you ignore them for days on end and they move on so you get whatever you were trying to avoid.i think he's moved on because he is taking ages to reply to me. In my opinion, that is the most immature, selfish thing to do. Lie and hurt the other person just because YOU are feeling too STRONGLY? So, 1. It is incredibly selfish. 2. It is dishonest and not being open with the other person at all. 3. It is insane. You feel too strongly so you end it? It doesn't even make sense. Why not just tell him you want a little distance to try and calm your emotions down. .
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 I was not playing a game,I was scared,normal human reaction
Gottabestrong Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 I said I don't really want to talk anymore you're not my soulmate bye.. he's not really talking now and I'm wondering if it's because of what I said, Is that a serious question? You told him you did not want to talk to him anymore. Now he is not talking to you. And you are confused as to why? We don't know any details, but from what you have presented here, it sounds like he did as you asked him. Not sure why you are confused about that.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 (edited) Sure,but I've started talking to him again so I don't feel that way. I don't know why when you realise you like someone,it becomes so much harder to talk to them. Edited December 28, 2013 by Thegreatestthing
MalachiX Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Are you for real? I'm really having a hard time believing this post. It seems like something an angry guy would make as a troll account to promote the idea that women are flaky. On the off chance that you are a real person...........SERIOUSLY? I'm not trying to be insulting but it's hard not to be blown away by your post. You tell a guy that you don't have real feelings for him and want him to leave you alone and then act surprised when he does exactly that? I was not playing a game,I was scared,normal human reaction Being scared is a normal reaction. Dumping someone because you like them then having the audacity to wonder why they're not talking to you isn't a normal reaction. However, let me answer your question: Would this make you stop talking to a girl? YES!!!! Why in God's name would I waste my time talking to someone who has told me in no uncertain terms that they didn't like me and weren't interested in me? Call me crazy but I listen to what people say. I think we're long past the cave-man part of our history when a man expected to pursue a woman despite her objections. Going after someone who clear says they don't want you is predatory (not persistent). On that note, if i discovered that a girl lied to me about her feelings because she was scared and expected me to keep chasing her despite this, I'd think she was crazy and avoid all further contact with her. 3
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 I see. I'm not a troll.Well I just made things worse,he started talking again saying he wanted to talk to me etc,but I was so fed up by how long he's taking to reply. I just said Don't bother I have plenty of people to talk too,and called him a peasant. Now he's not talking again. 2
gaius Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Nothing turns me on like being called a peasant by a woman. No idea what's wrong with this guy. 2
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 But he actually is one of those paupers so I've probably offended him. i so much want to talk to him,I told him I had dozens of messages so I guess maybe that's why he's not replying anymore.no really that wouldn't put any guy off
Kate9292 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 LOL. Poor you, you lack that feminine grace. You should have been corteous to him, never denying possibility there is something more but never saying it directly either. That would keep him interested for much longer. Instead you chose to be blunt
ThatMan Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 You know, there are men out there who are really into this sort of thing. I think your behavior is very becoming. There's nothing quite like being insulted by other women. "You dare disappoint me with your absence?! You worthless peasant! Get on your knees, worm." I think you should look for dates on specialty websites where men are learned in such things... I might not be completely serious. 1
theothersully Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Wow.... speechless. Are you 12 years old? 2
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 I know that there a lot of masochists that like this stuff,he isnt one of them he is really shy and quiet,and describes himself that way. do quiet ones really get putt off by this behaviour,I've never been shy or quiet. You know, there are men out there who are really into this sort of thing. I think your behavior is very becoming. There's nothing quite like being insulted by other women. "You dare disappoint me with your absence?! You worthless peasant! Get on your knees, worm." I think you should look for dates on specialty websites where men are learned in such things... I might not be completely serious.
Chocolat Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Greatest, please examine your behavior. You told him not to speak to you, so he stopped. Then you initiated conversation and he started speaking to you again. You decided his response was too slow so you insulted him. Switch this situation around: would you speak to a man who treated you this way? How would you feel? This thread makes me sad. 1
GemmaUK Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Other people do have feelings too. I'm really surprised that you don't seem to understand why someone would not want to contact you after you had told them twice not to and you had also insulted them by calling them a peasant. 1
anna121 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 This thread is hilarious. OP, please do this guy a favour and leave him alone. 2
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Thegreatesthing: Let me see if I follow: You met a man & had strong feelings for him. It scared you because it seemed perfect so you pulled away & stopped communicating with him for four days without explanation. For some reason he didn't go away. When you finally talked again, your feelings had cooled so you told him that he wasn't your soulmate. He responded that he was and you conceded that he might me. You told him that he wasn't your soulmate because you wanted him to go away; it had been so perfect that you stopped being able to talk to him & wanted to break up with him before he broke up with you & hurt your feelings. Now that he has actually stopped talking to you, you have the audacity to be upset & have now turned into a stalker calling this guy 12+ times wondering why he's not responding. Did I get that right? If so you are the worst kind of immature game player. You sound like you are in high school. If you are, you should grow out of this. If you are over 20, you need therapy. You need to grow up. Reverse psychology doesn't work in dating. What you really wanted when you pulled away was for him to chase you. When he didn't read your mind & assumed your silence was lack of interest, you wanted to dump him. Then when he let you, you chased him like a crazy woman. That's why he's not responding. He thinks you are schizophrenic -- hot then cold, interested then running. You need to work on the fear of the other shoe dropping. There is no need to run when a relationship is going well. You can put on the brakes but you need to tell the other person. The mess you are currently in is of your own making. Nevertheless do that guy a favor & leave him be. 1
Cinnimon Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 I see. I'm not a troll.Well I just made things worse,he started talking again saying he wanted to talk to me etc,but I was so fed up by how long he's taking to reply. I just said Don't bother I have plenty of people to talk too,and called him a peasant. Now he's not talking again. Sounds more like he is getting fed up with you!
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 I haven't called him at all,I hardly spoke to him but the rest of this is true. It's pretty appalling and I shouldn't be surprised that he is gone/ confused. I actually felt really ill at the thought of talking to him that's why I went away and ignored him,I've never felt nervous with anyone. Thegreatesthing: Let me see if I follow: You met a man & had strong feelings for him. It scared you because it seemed perfect so you pulled away & stopped communicating with him for four days without explanation. For some reason he didn't go away. When you finally talked again, your feelings had cooled so you told him that he wasn't your soulmate. He responded that he was and you conceded that he might me. You told him that he wasn't your soulmate because you wanted him to go away; it had been so perfect that you stopped being able to talk to him & wanted to break up with him before he broke up with you & hurt your feelings. Now that he has actually stopped talking to you, you have the audacity to be upset & have now turned into a stalker calling this guy 12+ times wondering why he's not responding. Did I get that right? If so you are the worst kind of immature game player. You sound like you are in high school. If you are, you should grow out of this. If you are over 20, you need therapy. You need to grow up. Reverse psychology doesn't work in dating. What you really wanted when you pulled away was for him to chase you. When he didn't read your mind & assumed your silence was lack of interest, you wanted to dump him. Then when he let you, you chased him like a crazy woman. That's why he's not responding. He thinks you are schizophrenic -- hot then cold, interested then running. You need to work on the fear of the other shoe dropping. There is no need to run when a relationship is going well. You can put on the brakes but you need to tell the other person. The mess you are currently in is of your own making. Nevertheless do that guy a favor & leave him be.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 30, 2013 Author Posted December 30, 2013 Well he messAged me and asked me why I called him a peasant, and I explained its because he seems poor,then he said I had no idea when I met you that you were such a bitch,then he said not to msge him unless I'm interested in him. What's wrong with being poor,really.
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