starla33 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 So I started seeing this guy that I like, but I also like this other guy that I have been seeing casually on and off for almost a year (he doesn't want a relationship with me so no hope there). After how many dates with new guy should I tell casual guy I can't see him anymore because I met someone? I really do not want to be sleeping with 2 people at the same time.
damien201 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Just don't sleep with two people at the same time. I don't see why it's any harder than that.
Author starla33 Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 Right, but I would have to tell casual guy that I started seeing someone else....because I mean all we do is sleep together
snowflakes88 Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Just say the situation isn't working for you anymore... done and done. You don't owe him any explanation as to why -- and considering he doesn't want a relationship with you, you'll just be making a grand announcement he won't care about anyway. 1
Gottabestrong Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Once it gets to the intimate stage with New Guy. Since Old Guy is not your boyfriend you don't owe him 'advance warning'. So once you get to a point with New Guy where you feel seeing Old Guy again would be cheating, just wait for Old Guy to contact you again and ask you to hang out and when he does tell him that you started seeing someone and won't hook up with him anymore. Good luck! 1
Author starla33 Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 Just say the situation isn't working for you anymore... done and done. You don't owe him any explanation as to why -- and considering he doesn't want a relationship with you, you'll just be making a grand announcement he won't care about anyway. i know you say that, but we do have history and it's been around a year and hes been very honest with me so yes I do owe him at least the truth.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 You say you've been off and on with casual guy. Go off for a while, get to know this new guy, and if it works out with him, stay off with ex-casual guy.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Just give him like a two week notice if you're that concerned...like a job. Otherwise, I've seen most women just peel off when they found a relationship oriented guy versus a casual one...of course they're a little bit afraid to lose casual guy but they know he isn't interested in a relationship, so they take the risk once they feel fairly confident relationship guy is going to follow through...then they just kind of disappear until casual guy calls them up for another booty call and then they spill the beans about dating someone new. It's all how you personally feel you should handle this situation...out of respect both of you should technically let each other know...however I doubt casual guy would do that or wasn't even just sleeping with other women anyway, most guys just pretend to be single if they meet someone new and since they aren't looking for a relationship anyway then they'll just have double the fun. If you really didn't want to sleep with two guys then you wouldn't do it based on your own feelings about it, nobody here needs to tell you what to do...you're a big girl that's been through the rollercoaster of "love" I'm sure by now, you should have some sense of what you want/need to do...but your hesitation shows you might be apprehensive about letting casual guy know, or you're just one of those women who loathe confrontation and communication out of fear and anxiety, abandonment.
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