angelkiss2403 Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 I'm a bit confused and I'm sure a lot of you have been in my position before. Ok, so I was with a guy for 5 years until about 8 months ago when we broke up. We didnt talk for awhile bc we needed our space. Well, now he and I are talking again and hanging out all the time. We aren't back together, YET. Obviously, he and I are very comfortable b/c we were together so long and I do still love him. BUT, recently I have gotten really close with an amazing guy from work. And HE and I have been with each other nearly everyday for the past two weeks. We are talking just the sweetest, perfect guy. He treats me so well and recently we kissed after a night out together. Ok, so the thing is...I have NO IDEA what to do. I don't want to lead anyone on but it seems like I might be leading both of them on right now. I am so confused...do I take the risk and drop my ex when we were finally working things out again??? Or, do I drop the new guy and never know how good it could have been??? NEED HELP ON THIS ONE FOLKS!!!
iceisles Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 I don't think anyone will definitively tell you which one to choose, unfortunately. However, if it were me, I would give the nod to the ex. You've known him longer and it seems like things are going well. I know you may hurt the new guy, as your subject implies, this may be a lose-lose situation. One alternative is to continue to dating them both for now, not making either one "official" until your heart has a better idea of who you want to be with. As nice as the new guy seems, it is still a risk because you don't know him all that well. If you are unsure what to do right now, there is nothing wrong with taking a few steps back and letting the cards fall where they may. Let us know what you decide.
Author angelkiss2403 Posted January 6, 2005 Author Posted January 6, 2005 Thanks iceisles... The only thing with going the ex route is that I've seen it end before and I've seen how it could possibly NOT be the thing that makes me the happiest. I guess, like you said, that I should try to just date them both, with no official ties, until I know for sure what to do. You are right, I am afraid to hurt either of them. I'm going to take that route for now I suppose. I'll keep you informed!!! Thanks again!!!
Des1 Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 From personal experience I think you should give the new guy a chance. You and the Ex have already been down your roads and broken up. WHen talking again everything is exciting but you both will eventually lead yourselves back to the reason you broke up in the first place. Just my opinion.. Either way Good Luck !
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