Belle88 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I posted on here a few months ago about all the issues I was having in my relationship.. I wasn't sure if I was allowed to link it or copy and paste my initial post. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/429255-what-point-do-i-give-up-i-am-wrong Well things have taken a turn for the worse. We had one big conversation about our relationship around Thanksgiving and I told him about how I was feeling and what not and once again he brushed me off. Things have been awful. We've been fighting and I've started to emotionally disconnect. We had "the talk" last night about breaking up and I think we are either broken up or in the process of it. I'm starting to second guess myself because of all the history we have and I'm scared of being alone.
Grumpybutfun Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Belle: The great thing about letting go of someone who is not working in you life is being free to find the person that will work for your life. Don't second guess yourself. Go with your gut. Best, Grumps 2
legion113 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 7 years together? He still wants to live at home? Mama's boy, pull the plug. If you continue to wait, that's just more years you've wasted, and you'll be that much older when you go back out looking for a relationship. The fact that you've been together for 7 years and apparently still can't talk about things in an adult manner with each other, or at least he won't says a lot. 1
strive Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 I'm scared of being alone. THIS is the only thing that's holding you back. You have to be brave and face it, and you'll see that it's not somehting to be even scared about. I was with my ex for 10 years living with his family, so I know how tough it is. We have our own place which basically became like a storage house because he insists that the only choice we have is to live with them (why the fsck did I even believe that?!?). Point is, that kind of dependency on parents is something that's hard to change and it'll be a burden to you if you get married. So yes, leave the RS and don't be afraid. You've already lost 7 years, don't waste any more of your time.
fixing Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 Belle: The great thing about letting go of someone who is not working in you life is being free to find the person that will work for your life. Don't second guess yourself. Go with your gut. Best, Grumps I like this. Your gut is always right!
Kopite Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 THIS is the only thing that's holding you back. You have to be brave and face it, and you'll see that it's not somehting to be even scared about. I was with my ex for 10 years living with his family, so I know how tough it is. We have our own place which basically became like a storage house because he insists that the only choice we have is to live with them (why the fsck did I even believe that?!?). Point is, that kind of dependency on parents is something that's hard to change and it'll be a burden to you if you get married. So yes, leave the RS and don't be afraid. You've already lost 7 years, don't waste any more of your time. I'm afraid I have to agree with this post. If the main reason you are still with him is because you're afraid of being alone, then it's not looking for you future as a couple. You won't be alone. You have your family and friends and you can take the opportunity to develop yourself individually and become a bit more independent. This will help you be ready for any future relationships too. Good luck and as others have said, go with your gut!
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