veritas lux mea Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 As a fake internet persona. We flirted and are building a relationship. On one hand it is sooooo good to be back talking to him and on the other he is already lying to me and I wonder if he really is the guy I thought he was. Anyways, going to see where this goes! 1
halfalive Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 You are brave!! I have to admit that I searched for him on dating sites to do the same thing but couldn't find him.... How did you do it? Through a dating site?
whichwayisup Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 As a fake internet persona. We flirted and are building a relationship. On one hand it is sooooo good to be back talking to him and on the other he is already lying to me and I wonder if he really is the guy I thought he was. Anyways, going to see where this goes! So you feel good, got your 'fix' of hearing from him, all on false pretenses..And now you're playing a game with him. Why even bother? You know he's scum and not the person you thought he was. Not "I wonder" You DO know he is NOT an honest or genuine person. Where do you want this to go? He isn't obligated to you at all, that's the thing to keep in your head while you play this little game with him. And, YOU are the one who is going to keep hurting and tearing your own heart apart if you can't let go and forget him, grieve the loss and try to move on with your life. 9
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 You are brave!! I have to admit that I searched for him on dating sites to do the same thing but couldn't find him.... How did you do it? Through a dating site? I made a fake fb account and upon first contact he was all over me. 1
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 So you feel good, got your 'fix' of hearing from him, all on false pretenses..And now you're playing a game with him. Why even bother? You know he's scum and not the person you thought he was. Not "I wonder" You DO know he is NOT an honest or genuine person. Where do you want this to go? He isn't obligated to you at all, that's the thing to keep in your head while you play this little game with him. And, YOU are the one who is going to keep hurting and tearing your own heart apart if you can't let go and forget him, grieve the loss and try to move on with your life. One of my favourite parts was the sexting. This way I can have that again. Also, my husband doesnt care if I dirty talk with random people online. He sees it the same as porn as lon as i be discreet and keep my identity hidden. I dont know if he'd care that it was xMM or not but im not going to tell him until i see how it goes. Easier to ask forgieveness? BTW, as l am not guving info, sending my own photos or meeting xMM it isnt really cheating.
halfalive Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 hmmm....you don't think the xMM is suspicious that it's you? I feel like I would know who was sexting me because the words he would use would be pretty unique to him.
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 hmmm....you don't think the xMM is suspicious that it's you? I feel like I would know who was sexting me because the words he would use would be pretty unique to him. We didnt get quite to sexting on my part. Just his. It has also been a looong time since and im thinking now he does this a lot!
whichwayisup Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 One of my favourite parts was the sexting. This way I can have that again. Also, my husband doesnt care if I dirty talk with random people online. He sees it the same as porn as lon as i be discreet and keep my identity hidden. I dont know if he'd care that it was xMM or not but im not going to tell him until i see how it goes. Easier to ask forgieveness? BTW, as l am not guving info, sending my own photos or meeting xMM it isnt really cheating. You can't see how messed up this is because you're in the midst of it all, but I really hope you see one day that what you're doing is quite damaging for so many reasons. 7
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 You can't see how messed up this is because you're in the midst of it all, but I really hope you see one day that what you're doing is quite damaging for so many reasons. How? I know it is not the norm or "good" but i cant see any true harm to it.
Cocochai Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 hmmm....you don't think the xMM is suspicious that it's you? I feel like I would know who was sexting me because the words he would use would be pretty unique to him. Please come back with an update! I want to know the reaction once he finds out it's you.
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 Please come back with an update! I want to know the reaction once he finds out it's you. IF he finds out. I an gonna just see how it unravels. His wife never believed he cheated on her last time so this time i am keeping it all! I may give it to her. I may tell him it is me and I want a relationship again. But my plan is to just have some fun until it is boring and move on.
Nothisgirl Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 One of my favourite parts was the sexting. This way I can have that again. Also, my husband doesnt care if I dirty talk with random people online. He sees it the same as porn as lon as i be discreet and keep my identity hidden. I dont know if he'd care that it was xMM or not but im not going to tell him until i see how it goes. Easier to ask forgieveness? BTW, as l am not guving info, sending my own photos or meeting xMM it isnt really cheating. Who's photos ARE you using? If that was me I'd be pissed. (Meaning whoever a identity you're assuming. I thought from previous posts you decided to work on your marriage? At this point, why not leave your husband and pursue a relationship with your AP?! It seems like that is what you want 1
Nothisgirl Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 You can't see how messed up this is because you're in the midst of it all, but I really hope you see one day that what you're doing is quite damaging for so many reasons. THIS ^^ If I could like this post 1000 times I would. 3
Poppyolive Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 My Oh My am i reading this right???? You set up a fake account to to check up on him, chat with him....this is wrong on so many levels....why bother getting wrapped up in this, revenge, lying, why consume your head and heart with this??? Please enlighten me!! are you 13? My opinion this is crazy, toxic behaviour...you and only you will get burnt 5
bentleychic Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 IF he finds out. I an gonna just see how it unravels. His wife never believed he cheated on her last time so this time i am keeping it all! I may give it to her. I may tell him it is me and I want a relationship again. But my plan is to just have some fun until it is boring and move on. I would suggest individual counseling. Immediately. I promise whatever you are seeking by what you are doing will NOT be beneficial to yourself, your life or your marriage. 6
Oldspiceywolf Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 I think it's hilarious! I think it's not the smartest play in the world and if you still have feelings for him(uh yeah) the. It will be a set back. Not sure what kind of boundaries you and your husband have set for your relationship but this sounds on the shady side. My wife and I have some looser rules but this would piss her off. I still think the cat fishing of OP is hilarious and in some way I'm surprised I didn't do this to my the cheater I was seeing. I've never been sent any kind of sexting on Facebook from anyone other than exAP, does random sexting just happen to other people of FB? 1
irresolute Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 One of my favourite parts was the sexting. This way I can have that again. Also, my husband doesnt care if I dirty talk with random people online. He sees it the same as porn as lon as i be discreet and keep my identity hidden. I dont know if he'd care that it was xMM or not but im not going to tell him until i see how it goes. Easier to ask forgieveness? BTW, as l am not guving info, sending my own photos or meeting xMM it isnt really cheating. He'll discover it's you and you'll feel embarrased. I know he'll know, when your guard goes down, and you'll start using the same phrases or words you used to with him. Beware. I've done the same thing, he discovered and laughed at me.
whichwayisup Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 How? I know it is not the norm or "good" but i cant see any true harm to it. Really? You can't see the harm by playing this game? I'll let you figure it out. 1
goodyblue Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 What are you, twelve years old? Jeez... this just sounds so... so... juvenile. Grow up and work on your marriage, or divorce. You need to get some major help here. He may do this a lot, be a major loser. But this game playing, what does it make you? 5
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 Who's photos ARE you using? If that was me I'd be pissed. (Meaning whoever a identity you're assuming. I thought from previous posts you decided to work on your marriage? At this point, why not leave your husband and pursue a relationship with your AP?! It seems like that is what you want Oh im pulling randoms off google. Cropping them and stuff. Don't want your photos handed up dont put them on the internet, or take them for that matter! I am a made up person. My husband and I are doing great, thanks. And there is no future with xMM. Just going to have some fun while it lasts.
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 My Oh My am i reading this right???? You set up a fake account to to check up on him, chat with him....this is wrong on so many levels....why bother getting wrapped up in this, revenge, lying, why consume your head and heart with this??? Please enlighten me!! are you 13? My opinion this is crazy, toxic behaviour...you and only you will get burnt I am not really seeing the big deal. It is dirty talk with someone who is good at it . I know who he is sure an he doesnt know who I am... But that is his choice isnt it? To get sexy with someone he doesnt know on the internet? I was in an affair. Im okay with what little ouchy this might cause me, if any.
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 I would suggest individual counseling. Immediately. I promise whatever you are seeking by what you are doing will NOT be beneficial to yourself, your life or your marriage. I find it funny when OW think something is messed up. Cuz Im lying? Pretending? Betraying someone? That means I need IC? Your MM goin to IC? 3
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 I think it's hilarious! I think it's not the smartest play in the world and if you still have feelings for him(uh yeah) the. It will be a set back. Not sure what kind of boundaries you and your husband have set for your relationship but this sounds on the shady side. My wife and I have some looser rules but this would piss her off. I still think the cat fishing of OP is hilarious and in some way I'm surprised I didn't do this to my the cheater I was seeing. I've never been sent any kind of sexting on Facebook from anyone other than exAP, does random sexting just happen to other people of FB? I really didn't expect him to respond. And he did. Im already seeing a different side of him then before by being more bold. It is crazy I know but really fun. I have an extremely gorgeous friend. And he gets interest all the time on FB from questionable sources.
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 28, 2013 Author Posted December 28, 2013 He'll discover it's you and you'll feel embarrased. I know he'll know, when your guard goes down, and you'll start using the same phrases or words you used to with him. Beware. I've done the same thing, he discovered and laughed at me. Oh i dont care and i plan to deny deny demy anyways. Just like him. And what have i got to be embarrsed about? It is a 50/50 thing going down.
Artie Lang Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 (edited) Also, my husband doesnt care if I dirty talk with random people online. He sees it the same as porn as lon as i be discreet and keep my identity hidden. I dont know if he'd care that it was xMM or not but im not going to tell him until i see how it goes. unless you have an open marriage or a "special agreement" with your husband, you have a pretty f_cked up relationship. as to the OM, he sounds like a real winner. knock yourself out. <<<<<INSERT EYEROLL>>>>> Edited December 28, 2013 by Artie Lang 4
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