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Sarabi

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Sarabi Established Member

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Well, let me get this off my chest so I don't drag it into 2014 :)

Last week sometime I was in the shops, minding my own business trying to shop for a few presents and a little bit of food for some recipes I wanted to try for christmas when I turned a corner and saw...exMM :eek:

I wear earphones when out and about and I just looked. I debated whether to walk on as if I was too busy or stop and say something. I dithered for a while. He had seen me and seemed to want to talk...meh. I took the earphones out and made the most neutral face I could.

So he asked how I was...I said "fine". He said "Oh I thought you'd left LDN and gone back to your hometown..."...I wonder why. He told me not to contact him and pretend I didn't know him. So I said "no. Am still here". How's your family he asked so I say "everyone is fine. My mum is getting married. Unfortunately my cousin had a baby a few weeks ago who passed away...but apart from that, we're all fine"

Oh sorry to hear that etc etc etc...so I ask him "how is your family?" he says they're fine. Little kid is growing up(this is good to hear). Wife is fine(this is also good to hear). I ask about the brother and his girlfriend...they had a fat and happy baby in October. Very nice. Unfortunately his brother in law is still ill. "We moved out of that place where we were...as you know it wasn't very good."

So he looks at me and says "you seem to have lost a lot of weight"...this is true so I say yes. Work is quite stressful these days.

Then he says "oh well...I guess I'd better let you go" so I "yes...you better had". I wished him all the pleasantries of the festive season put my earphones firmly back in my ears and carried on shopping.

 

I do not feel sad. Or upset. I felt strangely serene and calm and happy about that. He is fine. They are happy. I didn't bother asking where he moved to. I didn't bother saying I had moved. I revealed very little about myself...and funnily enough I am not caring whether I hear from/see him again or not.

Hmmmm...:rolleyes:

Hopefully that is the last I will see of him. Ever. Let us enjoy 2014 by leaving all of "that" behind :o

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LornaFE Member

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Yeah, I agree. Let us, who were being betrayed, make the best out of 2014 and move forward without looking back on nightmares that once happend.

~Lorna

vanellope Established Member

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you are very strong.

 

now I am in NC and try to be calm, but I just cant get him out of my head and just feel depress and sad in most of the time.

 

how long you start find out you feel better? 100 days or half year.

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I'm glad for you Sarabi.

 

it's great when you get to the point of indifference .

 

Well wishes to you in the coming year.

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BruisedBNBroken Established Member

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S, I've always loved your honest writing and I'm so happy you've come to a place of indifference. Great work and any single fabulous man will be lucky to have you in his life. Cheers to 2014!

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Sarabi Established Member

Sarabi

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you are very strong.

 

now I am in NC and try to be calm, but I just cant get him out of my head and just feel depress and sad in most of the time.

 

how long you start find out you feel better? 100 days or half year.

 

Its definitely been more than 100 days for me. I wrote another thread around the time I reached the 100 day mark but...just don't count. I can say its been at least half a year too. Block emails. Delete texts. Some of it is willpower on your part too. It will just get to a point when you will gradually waste less energy thinking about the person...but you won't notice :)

 

Its hard though. I can say I was thinking about him still in some way or other until recently...but its weird. I just tried to think good things about him and hope that they are happy rather than wishing he would come back to me.

That day that I saw him just put it all into perspective-they are happy(well I assume so). I am moving on...and to be honest, I am missing absolutely nothing.

Lol ;)

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Sarabi

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Thank you Skywriter and BruisedBNBroken :o x

Journee Established Member

Journee

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((((Sarabi))))

 

You know you are a doll to me. Keep on trucking girly. You got this.

 

I am so sorry to read about the little baby that passed :(

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