Riou Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 State if you are dumpee/dumper as well. When do you usually feel the urge to break NC and what caused it?
loveiswar101 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 If trying to heal all will say not to break NC, obviously. In this case I'm the dumpee but have been the dumper. As dumper I broke NC because I was rash and foolish and really didn't relise what I had and how much I felt for the woman. Now as dumpee I have broke contact twice in 3 weeks. First was a week after I received a text from my ex. Knocked me back. Second was xmas eve and that was just emotions that I couldn't get a grip on. But today dropped all her items back and believe in a little way that has cleanse me. Weird but now have no attachments just emotions and as she was the dumper, I need to move on and let it be. NC here in. I think overall NC is the way to go and up to the dumper to make her/his mind. But then I also believe the it can depends on how the BU happened. Believe there is no general rule about why people break NC. Simple.
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 State if you are dumpee/dumper as well. When do you usually feel the urge to break NC and what caused it? Boredom. Being in a small room, under my bed, devouring a box of chocolates and nursing a bottle of wine while thinking too hard. Or just lack of will power.
BC1980 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I'm the dumpee, and I've broken NC a few times. It was always based on me "checking in" to see if he had changed his mind. I was sort if testing the waters, but I don't think I admitted that to myself at the time. Of course, he had never changed his mind, so I felt even more helpless and weaker than before. It just sets you back because you realize that you are basing your life on their time table. You get that initial high of talking to them, but it crashes down afterwards when you realize nothing has changed. 1
xUnknown Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Dumpee. I've only ever broken NC when my ex texted me about a car issue that I did. I responded short/sweet and tying up the loose end. She came back and was surprised because it seemed like I just wanted to "be done with it all", which is what it was...she dumped me. I don't want to talk to her, we're done. Still deciding what I want to do, but I have checked her FB page (since she came back, not once since we broke up) because I miss her so much. I'm stuck on house arrest (ex broke up with me 2 weeks into it, so its been really difficult - have 3 months left). But I've wanted to break it so much because I'm left with my thought in my apartment. I can't go out with friends, to the bar, meet other women...it sucks. But, I come here to cope, or call some friends, xbox live with friends I graduated college with.
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