snowflakes1 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 This is a strange situation. A few years ago my brothers friend started to show interest in me, or so i thought. I live a few hours from home and I knew him as an acquaintance. We communicated online as acquaintances, he would ask me questions that were relevant to his job since I have knowledge in his field. Then i wouldn’t hear from him in a while. Then all of the sudden he started to send me presents in the mail. I found this strange and spoke to my brother about it. I told him that i was uncomfortable accepting gifts from him, but my brother said that he's very shy and that i would humiliate his friend if I didn’t accept the gifts. He said they were a thank you for the help I gave him. I sent him a thank you email for the gifts and left it at that. He responded to my email rudely implying that i didn’t appreciate our friendship. This I found odd since we were only acquaintances who discussed work related things, but i didn’t want to start anything so I didn’t reply. I was going through a breakup of a long term relationship at the time and I wasn’t in any place to deal with this situation. A few months later I heard from him again, he asked me some questions that were relevant to his job , I answered and then after a few emails he told me how he enjoyed talking to me and receiving my emails. His emails became of a more personal nature. I replied and we started talking since we had things in common. Then he started sending me gifts again. I thanked him again and he didn’t reply. A few weeks later i sent him another email seeing how he was doing since some things were going on in his life pertaining to his family and he replied very generally. I figured that he wasn’t interested in pursuing anything so i forgot about it. Then he sent me another friendly email and I replied and he didn’t, He keeps doing this. I don’t know if he’s interested in a relationship with me, or if he’s playing some kind of game. Just last week he sent me a gift for Christmas. At this point I really wanted to send back the gift b/c I think he’s playing some kind of game. I spoke to my brother about this and he told me that he’s really shy and so i wrote him back and thanked him and asked him if he wanted to get together when I’m in town and he again didn’t reply. I have tried to call him on the phone numerous times and he doesn’t reply. This is really strange to me. I don’t understand what he wants. I feel really uncomfortable receiving gifts from him. His recent gifts have been jewelry . My brother thinks that he likes me, but I honestly don’t think that he should be sending me gifts, instead he should be telling me how he feels. From what my brother tells me he’s kind of a loner and he’s in his thirties and has never had any significant relationships. At this point I don’t want to reply to any of his emails or receive anymore gifts from him. Is this the way shy people behave, or is there something wrong with him. It seems he just wants to receive emails or phone calls from me and that’s why he sends gifts or asks me questions but that he doesn’t want to actually have a real relationship. I’m 30 and since my breakup i haven’t really dated that much as the breakup has taken a toll on me after 5 years together I found out that he was cheating on me. I have been working on myself and coming to terms with what happened. At this stage I don’t really want to play these kinds of dating games if that’s what they are. What should I do in this situation?
emva07 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 may be playing games because he's shy, but games nonetheless.
eotdevice Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Send the gifts back! Even a shy person (which I consider myself) would willingly respond to emails or phone calls you send asking them to meet up. This fellow has some serious issues. And in reality, would you really want a relationship with him if he is that creepy?
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