nerd Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 is that the search isn't over. i'm tired of looking. happy new year. 1
somedude81 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Have you been searching long? I'm 32 and I got my first girlfriend six months ago. I'm nowhere near tired of looking. I'm actually kind of excited about actually dating and spending time with more women. Of course my relationship experience is very limited and it was only a short thing. If I had been with her two years or more, I'd probably want to give up on dating entirely. 1
Author nerd Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 haha... all i can say is, my pessimism is more resilient than yours. (not that this is a good thing). i had a girlfriend for a few months but it didn't last. but instead of that giving me confidence, i think of many reasons to keep looking down on myself - she wasn't really that hot, she must've been crazy, it was just a fluke, blah, blah, blah. i've been feeding myself negativity far too long for one woman who was interested in me for a few months to change that. unfortunate. because it'd be pretty nice if i felt more confident right now.
somedude81 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 haha... all i can say is, my pessimism is more resilient than yours. (not that this is a good thing). i had a girlfriend for a few months but it didn't last. but instead of that giving me confidence, i think of many reasons to keep looking down on myself - she wasn't really that hot, she must've been crazy, it was just a fluke, blah, blah, blah. i've been feeding myself negativity far too long for one woman who was interested in me for a few months to change that. unfortunate. because it'd be pretty nice if i felt more confident right now. It's too bad that you think that way about your ex and yourself. My ex was 21, hot + great body, very smart and nerdy, was a ballerina and liked all forms of dancing, and an amazing cook. Being with her has given me a big confidence boost and I also learned a lot about how to interact with women. Once I get over her (which will be hard) and am ready to date again, the only problem I'm worried about is finding a girl who is as good as she was.
mirage12 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 It's funny how each time after a breakup happens we think the pain is unbearable, that we'll never find anyone else, that it will never stop hurting. And then eventually, sooner or later, someone new does come along. I've felt horrible about my most recent breakup and I moped for weeks about it. Then I remembered how I felt the time after the first girl I fell in love with and I broke up...how the emotions and the cycle was the exact same, only 100 times worse because it was losing first love. I'm still not over this recent ex and I'm still mourning her. I wish things could be different but it helps to think that I've felt this way before, with other women before...and things did get better. I did meet someone new. And this time, I can only hope/bank on the fact that it'll happen again, somewhere down the line. 1
Softie Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 is that the search isn't over. i'm tired of looking. happy new year. Yeah I know how you feel. And I'm 40, would very much like to settle down.
EuTuBrute Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I'm 26, my ex gf was smoking hot... I'm f*cked because realistically i will never find someone that hot again. She was a bitch yes, but hot. I do deserve better. The search sucks because yeah i can get girls, but nowhere near the same looks as my ex gf. I feel like i compare every girl. I know its not fair, but we all do it.
mirage12 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I'm 26, my ex gf was smoking hot... I'm f*cked because realistically i will never find someone that hot again. She was a bitch yes, but hot. I do deserve better. The search sucks because yeah i can get girls, but nowhere near the same looks as my ex gf. I feel like i compare every girl. I know its not fair, but we all do it. Yeah but you probably didn't think you could get her before you started dating her...but you did. There will be more like her, one day.
2fargone Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I never look. It always just comes into my life. What I do know for sure is that no matter how good it was, the next one always is better.
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