Cinnimon Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I'm curious about something. Is it ever okay to just ask someone , so hey are you into me or what? I know this seems kind of in your face but it really sucks to play the guessing games of do they like me, what does this or that mean. A friend of mine said, just ask, something like, so okay we've met , been out a few times, where would you like or see this going, if your not feeling it then we can just agree to be friends or acquaintance's and move on. He said that's what he does because he isn't into playing games or wasting his time as he is seeking a relationship not a FWB. So , your opinions?
d0nnivain Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Sure. the right guy will give you a straight answer. The wrong guy will freak but you didn't want or need him anyway. 1
CrystalCastles Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Yes it's ok. And it would be good to ask. You should know where you stand and where you're headed. 1
Bigcitydreamer Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I wouldn't ask. I just let people's actions do the talking. I've had jerks screw me around before and I would never have asked where are we headed do you like me? If I sense their intentions aren't the same as mine I usually won't bother with them anymore. I prefer to remain as classy as possible (I know others may say asking if someone likes you isn't not classy but if it was me I wouldn't do it! I don't like calling people out early on in dating. It makes things weird. 1
emva07 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 lol, I like that "hey so are you into me or what?" Easier said than done that's for sure! 1
Onethirtyeight Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 As long as you want to hear the answer, are willing to tell them how you feel, and you've know each other long enough for them to give you a straight answer that sounds good to me. 1
ShyGuy5 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I don't know about this one. I had a girl who did that to me. She went right in for the kiss and I really wasn't expecting it because I thought we were just friends (I will admit I probably did send mixed signals by texting so much, but I was bored). Had I been into her it would have been awesome, but I really wasnt into her like that I was clouded by the moment. I figured what harm could going to a movie do, thinking that I might be able to come around to the idea because she liked me, but it didn't happen and I ended up digging a much deeper hole. Just keep in mind that if you do this that putting them on the spot might cloud their judgment. I do admire that she went for it though. 1
writergal Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Well, if you have to ask, then you already have your answer: he's not interested. The guy who is interested in you will not leave you hanging, or confused. His words and actions (body language) will make it clear to you that he likes you. Don't ask him. If you're not sure, then he's just not interested. Otherwise you'd already know by now.
emva07 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Well, if you have to ask, then you already have your answer: he's not interested. The guy who is interested in you will not leave you hanging, or confused. His words and actions (body language) will make it clear to you that he likes you. Don't ask him. If you're not sure, then he's just not interested. Otherwise you'd already know by now. so true....so true.
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