Lakerfan76 Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 Hello there all. I need some advice and you guys are some pretty wise bunch of folks in here so i thought i would throw this out there. I'm 28 years old my GF is 28 as well. We have been involved for almost two years now (one and a half officially) She is currently studying for the BAR exam and she has worked her whole adult life for this point, she has failed it previously and is focussing all her energy on studying. I rarely see her now or spend any true quality time with her (including intimacy) due to this and its putting a strain on our realtionship. I trylly love this woman and i want her in my life. We have discussed us and how we feel. I have shared my feelings of neglect and desire to see her and she asks me to be patient and that she cant focus on me right now because she functions better alone but she still needs me to be there for her. I want to be with her as well but i find myself getting angry at her and jealous. She shares with me how she jokes around with her coworkers at work and they talk about sex and joke around etc well it makes me jealous cuz i dont get to do that with her anymore but they do. I also find myself flirting and looking for attention in other woman at work in particular with this woman who nows my situation and feeds me the attention i want and i find myself enjoying her compnay more and more. We havent done anything and i dont plan on it , we only see each other at work and i go home feeling guilty but I like the attention. What do i do. Im sooo confused. I know i love my GF and i knew if things were solid with us i wouldnt be doing this or feeling this way.
SASSYPRINCESS Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 Thats a pretty tough one.. It really depends on what the two of you really want... If you think that you are wanting different things to her that are severly affecting your relationship and time with her, than you need to tell her more specifically the affect it is having on you and your feelings.. Have you grown apart and want different things? or does she really just need time to get through this exam? I would be questioning if i was you, that, this wasnt a way to push me away gently.. I would maybe try and talk to her a little more about it in further detail and really try and see where she is coming from and make sure she is not just trying to get out of the relationship.. If she really is just needing time to study and get through this exam, than you just need to decide if you can wait!
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