Bindi33 Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 What do you guys think about dating a guy who is extremely short. I'm 5'3 and he's 5'3. It kinda weirds me out because he's also relatively muscular as well. Yes, I know it sounds shallow, and personality should mean more. But seriously, thoughts?
Alex2244 Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 Get to know him, there will always be something you dont like no matter who you date. 1
regine_phalange Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 During high school, I used to have a crush on a guy my height (1.66m). He had such a handsome face and a lovely body. AND a killer sense of humour. I still think about him now and then... 1
GemmaUK Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 It depends if you are attracted and if you like to wear heels will he have a problem with that? Aside from that...no problem that I can see. Most of those couples in all those films we love so much...are the same height pretty much! 1
somedude81 Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 What do you guys think about dating a guy who is extremely short. I'm 5'3 and he's 5'3. It kinda weirds me out because he's also relatively muscular as well. Yes, I know it sounds shallow, and personality should mean more. But seriously, thoughts? Yes it is shallow. Don't be that woman. 2
freetolove Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 bottom line is if you're attracted to him or not. if not, don't do it. 1
MasonJarTeaDrinker Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 True if it bugs you then don't even go for it because it's gonna bug you eventually even more if you ever argue or some taller dude tries to get at you. So just leave the poor little fella alone.
xUnknown Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 As everyone else said, if you're attracted to the guy, go out with him...get to know him. Then, go from there.
Author Bindi33 Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 I am really attracted to some things.. Like his face, his personality, not to mention his voice/the way he talks is so unbelievably sexy to me. But he's just so tiny it weirds me out and I'm afraid people would look at us funny if we were a couple. I hate that I feel this way.
somedude81 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I am really attracted to some things.. Like his face, his personality, not to mention his voice/the way he talks is so unbelievably sexy to me. But he's just so tiny it weirds me out and I'm afraid people would look at us funny if we were a couple. I hate that I feel this way. Just stop with the worrying about people will think. I bet he's super happy he found a girl who is his height who is willing to date him.
Cinnimon Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I cannot date a guy my own height, it just feels odd to me. I think it is just a matter of personal preference. To me it's a turn off.
somedude81 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Not being able to date a man because of his height is extremely shallow. 1
MrCastle Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I am really attracted to some things.. Like his face, his personality, not to mention his voice/the way he talks is so unbelievably sexy to me. But he's just so tiny it weirds me out and I'm afraid people would look at us funny if we were a couple. I hate that I feel this way. If this is a matter of public perception then stop feeling that way. Who cares what other people think or say? Are you really going to let outsiders ruin a potentially good thing? On the other hand, if it really is bothering you, drop him. No one wants to feel settled for. There are plenty of women who don't find height to be an issue who would love to date him if he is who you say he is. He should date someone who genuinely wants to date him, not someone who feels embarrassed to do so. 1
FitChick Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 There is a middle-aged married couple in my neighborhood who are the same height. I'm guessing 5'3" or 5'4" and they look well matched. I am 5'8" and have dated someone my own height. I also dated someone an inch or maybe 2" shorter years ago. He was very good looking and financially well off but was a jerk so I dumped him. I'd have dumped him if he were taller. I think people will think that you look cute together. 2
Ruby Slippers Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Sounds good to me. When I see really short guys, I always hope they can find nice short girls to date 1
Bigcitydreamer Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 (edited) If this is a matter of public perception then stop feeling that way. Who cares what other people think or say? Are you really going to let outsiders ruin a potentially good thing? On the other hand, if it really is bothering you, drop him. No one wants to feel settled for. There are plenty of women who don't find height to be an issue who would love to date him if he is who you say he is. He should date someone who genuinely wants to date him, not someone who feels embarrassed to do so. Personally someone's height alone would not be a deal breaker for me. I consider myself good looking and I've dated guys my height 5ft 6. Dumped them early for other reasons than their height. I used to think that height mattered but as I've gotten older and dated multiple tall guys I realize that height has very little to do with the important things such as compatability and they way someone treats you. I'd rather be with someone 5ft6 so is a Prince Charming than a 6ft a**hole! Trust me, looks only get you so far. Edited December 27, 2013 by Bigcitydreamer Spelling mistake 2
Cinnimon Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Not being able to date a man because of his height is extremely shallow.[/quote It's not shallow, its called physical attraction. I am not physically attracted to guys my own height. So do you date people of all shapes, sizes, heights and looks? Just curious? 2
MrCastle Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Personally someone's height alone would not be a deal breaker for me. I consider myself good looking and I've dated guys my height 5ft 6. Dumped them early for other reasons than their height. I used to think that height mattered but as I've gotten older and dated multiple tall guys I realize that height has very little to do with the important things such as compatability and they way someone treats you. I'd rather be with someone 5ft6 so is a Prince Charming than a 6ft a**hole! Trust me, looks only get you so far. Well said. 1
somedude81 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 It's not shallow, its called physical attraction. I am not physically attracted to guys my own height. So do you date people of all shapes, sizes, heights and looks? Just curious? I'd date any woman who was within the normal height range. Shapes and sizes, no because that includes weight, which is something that a woman can control. Hopefully you know that a man has no control whatsoever as to what his height is. Maybe you'd understand why it's shallow to reject a perfectly normal looking guy whose only physical fault is something that he had no choice in.
MrCastle Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 It's not shallow, its called physical attraction. I am not physically attracted to guys my own height. So do you date people of all shapes, sizes, heights and looks? Just curious? I'm not sure what you consider not dating someone based on one physical trait is, and I don't know where you personally draw the line between "preferences" and "shallow" but judging someone based on the outside/superficial is by textbook definition, shallow. Some own it, and for some reason, others don't. We're all guilty of it at some point or another, but some, like OP, own up to it, and others get defensive.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I'm tall and it doesn't seem to work for me dating shorter guys because they almost always have at least a bit of a weird attitude about it. Rare is the man who is truly confident when he's shorter. Tall girls get as many stupid comments as short guys, I'm sure of it
MrCastle Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 I'm tall and it doesn't seem to work for me dating shorter guys because they almost always have at least a bit of a weird attitude about it. Rare is the man who is truly confident when he's shorter. Tall girls get as many stupid comments as short guys, I'm sure of it I don't know if that's true for all. Height aside, I know only one man uncomfortable dating a taller woman. And he's average height. 5'9 or so. All other men I know, short, average, tall, etc wouldn't mind dating a taller woman. I think people just try to paint a negative picture of people they were not attracted to in the first place in order to confirm their own prejudices. For example, short men are not allowed to get angry about anything because then people stamp them with the "napoleon complex," and so on and so forth. I think some women try to date short men, although not being truly attracted to them, but to show that they aren't shallow -- and then look for reasons to dump him shortly after. "I felt like he was making too much of his height," etc etc "so I had to let him go." "I'm not the one who had a problem with his height, he was." Like I said, in my experience, of all the men I've spoken to about matters of dating taller women, only one expressed displeasure, and he was not even short. I don't think men care about it at all. I don't care if my girlfriend towered over me. I'm sure women care more about that stuff than men do.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Believe me, shorter guys I've dated have said some weird things to me about the height difference. Like... "I wish I was taller than you." I asked one of them why and he said, "I don't know. I'm the man. I'm supposed to be taller." I've heard women say the parallel - "it makes me feel more feminine when he's taller". My femininity is not tied to any other person's height. I like a STRONG guy, yes, and being with a guy who's a lot stronger than me brings out my femininity more. But plenty of shorter guys are very strong and tough. The OP said herself that her 5'3" guy is buff. 1
MrCastle Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Believe me, shorter guys I've dated have said some weird things to me about the height difference. Like... "I wish I was taller than you." I asked one of them why and he said, "I don't know. I'm the man. I'm supposed to be taller." I've heard women say the parallel - "it makes me feel more feminine when he's taller". My femininity is not tied to any other person's height. I like a STRONG guy, yes, and being with a guy who's a lot stronger than me brings out my femininity more. But plenty of shorter guys are very strong and tough. The OP said herself that her 5'3" guy is buff. Yeah. I think it depends on personal experience. When I'm out in the city, especially in the downtown area where most modeling agencies are, and I'm in the presence of women who tower over me. I mean women in the 5'11/6'0 range, and I'm with my boys, and I point her out, they'll all say something like "oh yeah I'll climb that babe," or "oh yeah I'll show that amazon what's what" -- only one man has said "na I'm good. You can have that. Not down with her being that tall." But I think both sides make too much of it in general. I think it's mainly online based. I didn't know height was a thing for women or men until joining here, as my experience in dating has had negatives, but absolutely none having to do with my height or hers and always to do with me not knowing how to handle women early on, or her just turning out to be a complete bitch (sorry). Since I've not had any negative experiences regarding height, I continue to live like it's not an issue.
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