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Posted similar topic a few days ago and wanted to get some fresh opinions on a question. Everyone has different views on boundaries so this is just out of curiosity.

 

What would your thought process be on your significant other going out / inviting over one friend, of the opposite sex, for drinks? Would it make you uncomfortable knowing they are alone and drinking or would it not make any difference?

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It would depend who the other person is. An ex? Just a friend? A friend I know? A friend I know and trust? A friend I don't know? A friend I don't know that I've heard good things about?

 

So many factors as to my reaction though above all, he can do what he pleases, whether I like it or not. Not to say I wouldn't be jealous (Opposite sex or the same, they're stealing my time with my honey! :p) but it's his life, his decisions. However, if I was concerned about the actions of the other person, I'd certainly let him know.

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Certain times could be just a friend and sometimes an ex who is a close friend. Do not know any of them.

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That's not an issue for me as my husband doesn't drink. Even if they were going out some place where there would be drinks, I know he wouldn't have more than one. I can't control what the other girl does, but I trust my husband so I wouldn't be worried. Now if he was somebody who was going to drink to the point of getting drunk, that would be a completely different story.

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It would depend on the specifics. For example, how long we'd been together, if they'd given me any reason to doubt that I could 100% trust them.

Also I would be case-by-case on who the friend was and if I knew them/liked them/trusted them.

 

I would never outright tell him that he couldn't see one of his friends, but I would raise any concerns if I had them

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It would depend on the specifics. For example, how long we'd been together, if they'd given me any reason to doubt that I could 100% trust them.

Also I would be case-by-case on who the friend was and if I knew them/liked them/trusted them.

 

I would never outright tell him that he couldn't see one of his friends, but I would raise any concerns if I had them

 

I didn't mean not to see them...just have certain boundaries (i.e. not being alone in an apartment together or drinking alone with them)

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Posted similar topic a few days ago and wanted to get some fresh opinions on a question. Everyone has different views on boundaries so this is just out of curiosity.

 

What would your thought process be on your significant other going out / inviting over one friend, of the opposite sex, for drinks? Would it make you uncomfortable knowing they are alone and drinking or would it not make any difference?

 

For me it would boil down to 3 different things

1. Who is this other person? An ex or other person she had some sort of thing with at some point is going to make me uncomfortable

2. How long have we been together? The longer we've been together the more I'm going to trust her

3. How is she like in general? If she's generally a flirty person and might give off the wrong signals I'm not going to be happy with her drinking with other guys even if nothing happens simply because I don't want other people getting ideas that they can go for my GF.

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