Teejee Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 It's been 2 months since we broke up and I still feel like sh*t. We were in a relationship for about 10 months when she decided that she wasn't feeling enough love for me anymore. She said we are just too different and that she lost her feelings towards me and that it felt more like being friends instead of having a relationship. In the beginning when we met she was the one that always wanted to be with me and I really didn't know what I exactly wanted, but after awhile I realized I liked her very much. I'm feeling very hollow and low and she's looking happy and she already moved on (going out a lot, kissing other guys and who knows what kind of stuff she did in the meantime). It pains me that she moved on so easily and my heart is shattered. That she will soon love somebody else and that I don't even want to be with another girl. And the fact that she is really beautiful (and easily can get many guys) and I'm not that great looking doesn't make it feel much better. She has a good job, many friends etc and well I guess I am the opposite of that although I have a lot of friends. I think it meant more to me than to her. Also because this was my first real relationship. She already had a relationship with a guy for 3 years. In the end she also texted him and other guys so even though I should be angry and all I still love her and take her back if I had the chance. But I know it's definitely over and there is no chance of getting back together. We haven't had any contact for 5/6 weeks now and I guess that is the best thing to do. I really want to move on and improve my life and hope that I will find a great girl once.. I Just wanted to type this so I can get my feelings on ''paper''. Has anyone got any tips on how to cope with this (maybe own experience) and move on and become a better person? I think it will help me a lot. Thanks.
Armyguy123 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Hey man it seems like you're doing better than you think. I got dumped in August by a Girl I dated for 2 and half years who I thought I was going to marry. She dumped me about a week after I found out I got in Army Pilot School. I am still no where close to getting over her completely. In terms of coping. Hit up your friends as much as possible, go do stuff even if you don't want to. Stay busy and active. Delete her from all forms on contact. Block Facebook and her phone number, and don't talk to her friends either, or your friends that hang out with her. I've just started trying to date again, its not going very well....haha, but I'm gonna keep at it. All the girls are really into but I just can't shake the thoughts of my ex. But hang on, apparently it gets better.... I know I'm a lot better than I was about 4 months ago. Take care man. Keep pressing forward.
ponchsox Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 It's really hard at first, you think she's the only person you will ever love. Just take it one day at time, take it easy on yourself, and maintain full no contact. There will be a day in the future where you will become indifferent towards her and meeting new women will be exciting. I'm 3 months post BU and while I think of my ex, I remember how poorly she treated me and I am able to move on from those thoughts.
Author Teejee Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 Thanks for the support. I have this bad habit of only thinking about the good times and forget the bad times. I don't really know how I am doing at the moment, but if I would bump into my ex or if I see her with another guy I would be f*cked up.
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