redkangaroo Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 As for today I am more than happy with my life, I haven't had any drama or lost love experiences for almost a year, which is unusual for me. I have one little problem though that I need your advice on, here is the background. I'm still focusing on girls from my home country, because I like them more than any other, which means long distance relations at the first stage. I don't have a girlfriend for four months now, so I have plenty of time for search and I got two results. First girl I met three years ago, we were flirting a lot during this time, mostly via messaging. I didn't pay to much attention to her, as I was distracted by my ex. Now she came from vacation well sun-tanned, full of energy and extremely hot. I don't know if it's love, but I'm 100% sure I want to be with her. She recently confirmed once again that she wants me to be her boyfriend. I invited her to come and spend time with me, she agreed, but since visa process went not smooth and still in process, we are waiting to meet each other for two months now, and don't know yet when it's going to happen. During this time she started to play on/off thing, some days she demands communication and tells me how much she thinks about me and misses me, then she can disappear for a week. She used to act like that before, and it was fine for me, since I didn't care, but now, considering the feelings I started to have towards her I need more attention and daily communication. Now there is a girl number two, that I met online two weeks ago, who looks good too and is interested to meet, and more than willing to communicate figuratively 24/7. So basically I fill lack of communication with the girl #1 by talking to the girl #2. If the girl #1 knew the girl #2 exists I think she would stop acting like that and would do everything possible not to lose me, I think she would even try better than the girl #2. Here is a question. How do I nicely and delicately let the girl #1 know she's not the only one and that she has a competitor, who can destroy possible relations she wants? I need her to act less relaxed about the situation and value this possible relationship at least the same way I do. Thank you for your comments.
GemmaUK Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 I say go for telling them both. You sound like you are attempting to manipulate..manipulation doesn't work on women generally. Ever had that conversation where she has just sat and said nothing and given no expression and no reply? That is our reaction to manipulation. They will both suss it sooner or later so just be honest. I suspect you may well lose both if you carry this on.
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