Don't know why I can't be happy alone. .

[wayji]

We were both college sophomores

And we went out for a month and he broke up with me because he said he didn't want a relationship and all the regular excuses . We were best friends and it hurt me so much that I couldn't make him

Happy and that I had done things wrong even if he says it has

Nothing to do with me. We work together and it's so hard to see him

Happy and normal while my life fell apart. I fought hard but he wouldn't give in . It's my fault for dating a coworker who I have to work with now but

It was so easy and we both seemed to have wanted it in the past. Now I don't act the same at work. I can barely stand being with him in the same room . I'm

Always trying to get him to talk about his feelings at least. Now doesn' text back. I feel really numb all the time and ugly and like I can do anything right .

My 3.7 gpa is dropping to a 3.6. I put so much energy into my schoolwork after the breakup but I would get anxiety and then be really hard on myself as a straight A student people expect me

To be.

[wayji]

I've done everything . I've tried talking to people and focusing on other things but I'm so naturally good at multi tasking that I start to focus on him. I would have done anything to make him

Happy. I cared about

Him so much and he suddenly lost his feelings for me . Males

Me feel like I'm not worth being with. My own best friend couldn't appreciate everything I had to give him then I don't think anyone can .

[WYSWYG]

Wayji, it's good that you're posting here cuz we're all in the same boat. It's a crippling emotional roller-coaster ride. She was my best friend, too and she dumped me 2 months ago.

 

It might be harder for you being in the same job but I also can't imagine how you would feel if you never see him at all and think what he's life is like. Absence can lead to dark thoughts that could be just as worse.

 

Understand that the person who once cared for you is not there anymore - for whatever reason. It's a harsh reality. You've been together for only a month so I'm assuming there we'rent really a lot of memories built.

 

Looking back and analyzing what you did, there will be faults. Learn from it and let it be - it's beyond your control now. I know it's easier said than done.

 

There are no shortcuts on letting go. Only time. I tell myself, I'll be ok a few months from now just to keep my head up.

 

Do not let this crush your spirit. You're young and has a lot ahead of you. The suffering will END and you WILL meet another.

 

Cry if you want. Let it out. Don't hold back. Read a lot of the posts here and remember that folks are here to/for support. You're not the only one crying right now...

Edited December 26, 2013 by WYSWYG

[d0nnivain]

You are at college surrounded by people. Join a club. Go for a walk. Work out. Hang out in the hall way. . . . there will be people to talk to.

 

 

If your school has mental health services talk to a counselor. Don't let your school work suffer. 1/10 of a point in one semester isn't life threatening but you can get it back on track.

[wayji]

Thank you. I've tried all those things but for some reason i cant let go. I get into really bad moods where I feel numb and I can't do anything unless I vent. what if I can't move on enough like he did.