flopply hat Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 I met and married a man two years ago, we are now divorced. He had another with whom he has had a long term relationship with. She is married and wouldn't leave her husband but he wanted the relationship to continue. I of course could not tolerate so left. This brings me to now. I have been communicating with a man off an online dating site, he is lovely and we have been talking on the phone for a long time. He says he wishes us to be forever, that he knows I am wonderful, that we get on so well and ment to be together. We are meeting soon. He does have another interested in him who is has met. They had a falling out but now she is back and he has communicated with her saying he wished they had worked out and could they try again. He has said to her that he thinks of her all the time, he has said this to me also. I have asked what he is playing at toying with two women. His response is he is unsure that I feel the same way about him so he is keeping his options open. I feel it is ok to be friends with more than one and to see who suits best but he is romantic with us both. Considering my past romantic disaster I feel inclined to give this man a wide berth. He is persistent and says if nothing ventured then nothing gained and that we should take risks. He still wants to meet. Yes if we go through life avoiding situations we are scared of where do we get. I have mixed feeling here. Is it the mistrust due to my last experience, do I give him a chance as he has asked me to. Or is he a damn charmer to avoid. What do others think?
MidwestUSA Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 You've been communicating with him a "long time"? How long is that? You can't possibly begin to know someone, or their intentions, without having met in person. Go ahead and meet him, in a safe manner, and keep your expectations low. What is the worst that can happen?
Author flopply hat Posted December 26, 2013 Author Posted December 26, 2013 We have been chatting daily for two months. Worse that can happen - being strung on, lied to, rejected, heart break (had enough of that). Ok I may not like him any way when we meet.
Author flopply hat Posted December 26, 2013 Author Posted December 26, 2013 That was my thoughts and I cancelled a meeting already arranged but he has persuaded me. May be the other interest hasn't worked out or he's edging his bets, I don't know. The purpose as he states is that we may work out. I'm still unsure but I expect time will tell.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 IF only you had a way to be able to gauge constantly, and continuously just when this guy is telling you the truth... then it would be OK that he were courting two prospects simultaneously. None of the three of you has any clue which partnership is most likely to work-out, so it is probably some degree of fair for him to have two irons in the fire if he is honest with both.
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