mavmtn Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 Dear all, earlier this month I was traveling and I met a really nice and attractive girl. I am not as easily attracted to girls as most men are (which is not to say I am gay, if anyone is wondering), which is why I was sort of surprised at myself that I was. It also means it was kind of special, hence my message here at this forum. We met earlier, but we started hanging out on the last day I was in town and we really hit it off. We talked for hours about all sorts of things we are both interested in and then she invited me to see her uni. There she introduced me to a lot of her friends and she was kind of flirtatious in many ways (she even told her father on the phone that it was none of his business who she was hanging out with). We had dinner and took a walk afterwards, so everything seemed to be going fine. However, at some moments she also seemed a bit distant, in the sense that she did not reciprocate me breaking the 'touch barrier' and the end she gave me a handshake (although somewhat awkwardly, in my view). Naturally, we exchanged emails afterwards, but in the emails she seems to be interested still. For example, she finishes the messages with 'hugs' and she also recently stated that she wants me to send pictures of myself, because she is slowly forgetting what I look like (which to me sounds logical since we hung out only for one day, really). What do you think? On the one hand, she seems interested, but on the other she is sort of distant. And it is harder to gauge her interest, now that we only communicate through email. Any thoughts are appreciated! Thanks alot!
d0nnivain Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 If you want to pursue an LDR with her you are going to have to step up your game. What kind of distance are we talking? Can you easily get back to where she is? If so make arrangements to take her on a date.
Author mavmtn Posted December 26, 2013 Author Posted December 26, 2013 Thanks for your message! What do you mean with 'step up my game'? We are talking about a distance of 2500 km as the crow flies (and different country too). So it is hard to take her on a date.
d0nnivain Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 Ok, popping by won't work. By step up your game I mean reach out, call, text, e-mail, FB, Skype, do whatever you have available to you to stay in contact with her. Talk. Communicate. Reassure her that you want to date. But have an end game about closing the distance. When / how will you get together when she finishes uni?
Author mavmtn Posted December 26, 2013 Author Posted December 26, 2013 Right, ok, well we are emailing now and they are pretty long (on both sides). But my question was more whether I picked up on the signals, i.e. does she really like me or does this seem more like a friendship type situation?
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