volley Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Here's the story. I have a friend that I have known since school. We never hungout. He is 24 and im 27. His mom and I used to work together and she has seen how such of a good person I am. Him and I both has trouble past relationship and have both been single for a couple of years. His sister works in our small town and she told me their mom wants my brother and you to hook up. Im like really she states yep you need to contact him. So I went home asked him to accept me as a friend in which he did. We fb messaged each other and then he gave his # to text. We talked here and there for a few weeks. For the last week we have been talking everyday. We talk about normal stuff to being fwb to sexual stuff. he states he is going to be leaving for 12 wks for the police academy in January. He also lives like an hr away. So he has asked me a couple times to come up but I couldnt do to snowy bad roads. Then he asked me to come up a couple days ago. So i became very nervus and we kept on going back and forth like do want me to come or not he states its up to me. So then I went out started my car came back in asked where I need to go and then asks u sure . He goes its like ur trying to find and excuse not to come up. Since you have been dragging ur feet for 1.5 hrs dont come up. I got pissed I said fine whatever goodnight.I was just very nervus and acted like it. So the next day I text him and said I was sorry and that work got cancelled and we could hang out. He stated that its best that we dont and I would probably end up getting hurt. I said im willing to give this a chance. He said I still dont think this is a good idea. So know he is not texting me and I feel bad. I really like him and I feel like he is putting a wall up. I asked his sister what to do and she states she thinks he afraid he might get attached and then he is leaving for the academy, so he doesn't want to hurt you or get involved with someone. I just dont know what to do I miss his texting me and I opened my heart on him and he states im thinking to much into it. I dont understand why he just up and stopped texting? I really think this guy could be the one but I can give him a chance until he lets me in but he has this wall up. I dont know what to do? Do I leave him be? I mean we have plenty fo time to hangout before he goes. Its like he's pushing away. Why do men do this?
M30USA Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Typically men pull away for the following reasons: 1) They feel like they're being manipulated. 2) Theh can't handle all the drama. 3) Or they just aren't into you. I can't say for sure which one applies here. Best of luck.
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