SubliminalSessions Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 To me, the holiday (and birthdays) is always like a turning point. It kind of symbolizes where I stand with certain people. If a person can't be assed to make some sort of plans with me, or invite me to something or at the very least send a text...I feel like I should cut ties with them. Because it's At the moment, I have 3 people who are doing exactly that. 2 of them I've known for a little while, which I find to be particularly irritating. And the other is someone who I've 'hooked up' with a couple times...so with that person I can't really be too upset with because we haven't known each other that long. But, non of my 2 'close' (atleast not like how I thought) have invited me to any sort of party or included me in anything. This whole month, I have not been invited to a single event/party. And normally, 1 of my friends invites me to stuff, not sure why nothing for Christmas. He invited me to some concert, but it was at the last minute on the day of. I hate to sit around being resentful or mad about it...but at the same time, you can't be a real friend AND avoid me during the holidays. And it just reaffirms the fact that I need to relocate because I really have nothing or no one here to stay for. They won't miss me, and I won't miss them. Mind you, I've been living here for nearly 3 years...and this is what I have to show for it. Half ass Christmas plans, and not a single festivity planned. That's some bull**** isn't it?
HokeyReligions Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Did YOU plan any festivities? Did YOU invite anyone out?
Author SubliminalSessions Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 (edited) Did YOU plan any festivities? Did YOU invite anyone out? I knew you'd ask lol. But yes, I did. But 1 of my friends had claimed to be going out of town for the weekend, while the other just keeps going silent whenever I mention anything about doing something for the holiday. My out of town friend I'm sure is back already, and when I called him...he didn't pick up. I personally can't really plan any big party or anything because I live in a small studio style apartment that has an occupancy limit of about 3 lol. Then, I already live a little bit outside of town and it's hard enough any other time of year to get them to come to my place. One of my friends though is just a big ole slut. Almost everytime we talk, it has to be about the next dick or the next dick. One of the dick's I happened to have already had...which just goes to show what kind of slut that ho is. People like that are selfish and have a very self-serving mentality. And in addition, these friends KNOW people who are having stuff going on. Alot of people who have parties generally welcome bringing a friend or 2 or 3. I know how parties go. Edited December 25, 2013 by SubliminalSessions
nescafe1982 Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 IDK, the holidays are almost entirely about family for me. I text friends back when they reach out to me on those days, but I don't expect them to make plans with me, etc. And I'm in my thirties. I remind most of the my friends when my birthday is coming up. They wouldn't know otherwise, lol.
Author SubliminalSessions Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 (edited) IDK, the holidays are almost entirely about family for me. I text friends back when they reach out to me on those days, but I don't expect them to make plans with me, etc. And I'm in my thirties. I remind most of the my friends when my birthday is coming up. They wouldn't know otherwise, lol. Well, my thing is I went out last night with another (true) friend of mine to the local hangout bar. Well, as expected I ran into 1 of the friends who was avoiding me this holiday. We were near the bar, my friend said...don't go up to him, wait for him to come to you. So I just completely ignored him...then he acknowledged me. We chatted and hung for a bit, but it wasn't like they were so tied up with family they couldn't do anything. I blame myself for some of it. Both friends I mentioned, I met either at the bar or online. Then on top of that, I live in a city where people are friendly fake. To make it worse, if you're not White, Latin or someone who resembles either, you have to almost be willing to let people use and walk all over you, or have some status with certain people/establishments. Then, they'll be buzzing all over you. My thing is I don't let people walk all over me. I don't let them borrow my car, I don't lend out money, and I don't ****ing buy a round of drinks for 6 guys and spend $100. Last night I seen a handful of people do that. I may buy 1 guy a drink, but you'll never catch me buying it for the whole crew. If I have to do that to earn a friend, then it's not going to last when I can't. So most people probably feel they can't get over on me, and **** off. Once I get into a lasting relationship for once, all my friends can go **** themselves. Edited December 27, 2013 by SubliminalSessions
Author SubliminalSessions Posted December 27, 2013 Author Posted December 27, 2013 ..and besides, how much less of a friend is someone who can't even call you on Christmas or send a text, or give a present or anything. My other friend texted me, I'm about to raise hell with him. And my other friend from last night, I should have kept ignoring him and gave him the finger. Everybody else can hangout with their friends during the holidays, what the **** is wrong with these ass holes that they can't? Because they're fake. I can't really forgive people who pull stunts like that.
lollipopspot Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 ..and besides, how much less of a friend is someone who can't even call you on Christmas or send a text, or give a present or anything. Are you sure these are people who are really into the holidays? I don't text people on Christmas unless they text me first, or give gifts unless we have planned it. I'm not big on holidays. 1
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