datingnoob93 Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Hi and merry Christmas ! So I've been seeing this very pretty but but extremely busy and elusive girl over the last 2 and a half weeks. So far we've been on 3 dates together and things are moving very slowly. I went from handshake to a hug to finally a kiss on the 3rd date. I really really like her, but I somehow get the feeling that she is on the fence about me. It took me forever to set up those dates and she flaked on me big time for the second date. She never volunteers an alternate time she is free so I always have to fish around (friday night? I'm busy. Saturday? I'm working. Sunday? Maybe, I'll let you know), etc etc. She works 2 jobs BTW so I guess she is genuinely busy often. She almost never initiates contact with me, but when I text first I always get a reply, even if it takes her hours. I'll text her every 2 or 3 days or so to avoid sounding desperate and give her the chance to establish contact first, but she has never done that, so the onus is always on me to text first. I know that after the first date you should really CALL, but every time I try calling her it goes straight to her voicemail which says "user has not set up voicemail" so I can't leave a message. She's not like this in person though. After an awkward first date she really warmed up to me on the second and third and now I feel like we could talk about anything. She has the sweetest personality and always laughs at my (lame) jokes. Last time I saw her in person she was even suggesting 4th date ideas like going ice skating and fishing. I guess at this point my question is, why is she being so noncommittal and elusive to me in between dates? Is she really interested in me? Some ppl after a good first date will call and text each other constantly EVERY DAY to flirt between dates but we have not done that. She gets hit on constantly by other guys and I'm not even sure if we are exclusive. But I've made it to the 3rd date and likely will get a 4th, so she can't be uninterested either ?? What is going on ? Thanks.
ShyGuy5 Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Having two jobs makes it difficult, especially if the jobs don't have set schedules. If you kissed her and she suggested a 4th date, then sounds like things are going well. Don't put too much emphasis on the texting, especially if the in person interactions are good. She could not be a big texter or just running on fumes from working so much.
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