FracturedFroggy Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 After 7 weeks of NC, she sent me an e-mail asking if I'd be interested in meeting up to remember her mother who passed away nearly a year ago. I replied agreeing to meet and she texted me some banal texts. I made a huge mistake and asked her if she missed me. This resulted in an avalanche of emotion from both her and myself. I flew back to our home town asap and met up with her. One thing leads to another and we slept with each other a couple times in as many days. A lot of holding and crying and sighing. Sounds good so far, right? Well it turns out that while we're reconciling, she casually mentions that she's going to Denver to meet up with a guy she had met at a bar while she and I were still together. Because she and I are so close, I objected, saying that given our reunion, she shouldn't entertain the idea of spending an entire week with another man. She insisted that she's going because she had a miserable year with me and wants to have fun... I pressed and pressed to no avail. Frankly, after 2 months of NC, I don't think I have the right, necessarily, to protest, but I did anyway. She and I had a very intense three day reunion and I fell right back in love with her. She's the love of my life and I let her know that since I've been gone, I've been sad and alone, mostly. She revealed to me that she contacted me because she saw a pic on Facebook of myself being happy with a beautiful woman I've been dating. So it all comes down to her insecurity - her wanting to find out if I'm happy - which is why she breaks NC, sleeps with me twice, then leaves for a week to spend with a man she started a relationship with before we broke up. I'm ****ing destroyed. Again. For the last year of our relationship, she would repeat a cycle of loving me, then pushing me away. She must have done this a hundred times. It was maddening. She admitted that she has an emotional problem stemming from being abused as a child which made her act in this manner. What I'm failing to convey is that I'm head over heels for her. It was love at first sight and it was intense and deep the entire time. I don't know exactly why I'm posting this. I know what I should do. I should kick her to the curb. But I'm sure I'd be happy forever if she were to once and for all commit to me and be my wife. But I'm uncertain if this could ever be, let alone if she doesn't fall in love with this guy, who she'll inevitably treat the same as she's treated me. My holidays are ruined. I'm alone. I could have been with other people. Other women. It stings. I was with her for the last two Christmases. I hate her so much, but I love her as much. Much more.
cavalier99 Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Argggh I feel sick just reading your post. Sorry. Nothing left to do but go NC forever. Lesson learned. Cav 6
M30USA Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Gosh, you've been HAD. I hate to say it. The worst part is that she now doesn't respect you, either. Basically her coming back for this little fling was to see if she was better than the beautiful woman she saw you with on FB. Now that you were willing to take her back, she is saying to herself: "Okay, I'm better than that beautiful woman. Mission accomplished. I got no more use for this guy." 1
Still-I-Rise Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 - I think the advice from the previous posters is worth your consideration. Seems the reunion was all about her ego and emotional needs. Nothing to do with your emotional needs or well being.
Angry bird Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 This happens so often. When someone you love comes back to you it's all you wanted. How are you to know that it is all their ego? It hurts. Everyone is right. Lesson learned. As much as I want to hear from my past, I know is better that he not contact me ever again. I think about him all the time, but he really hurt me...more than once. She sounds like she is looking for love in all the wrong places.
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