irc333 Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Was recently talking to a friend of mine, she has a daughter that's early 20's and in the military. Apparently, she is so well liked by men and attracts them time after time, she's beginning to despise it. The problem is, she's a sweet, kind, and of course..an attractive person....an THAT's the attraction. I think the attraction is, men find her not to be vapid or superficial nor play games like the other women. Apparently, she IS a good catch for most men, and chances are she would be a good catch considering her kindliness, but she's finding it VERY Frustrating to beat these men off by being very short and of course resorting to some kind of act of UN-kindness to fend them off...and THAT"S what's bothering her. And now, she's not leading them on, but apparently she's not only acquired male friendships, but these are just casual meetingsin a social setting as well. One men even waited until she got out of the military to see her again. SOME have even changed their careers or lifestyles to be with her. ANd..of course, she's received tons of marriage proposals. The part about marriage proposals, how often do people receive marraige proposals from without even dating them?? Anyhow, apparently that is the case, and a lot of men vie to be their new girlfriend or even wife. However, she says she has NO interest in being in a relationship whatsoever, NOT even dating at all. Ever hear of people in these situations, specifically women?
antonio1149 Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 I think the attraction is, men find her not to be vapid or superficial nor play games like the other women. Apparently, she IS a good catch for most men, and chances are she would be a good catch considering her kindliness, but she's finding it VERY Frustrating to beat these men off by being very short and of course resorting to some kind of act of UN-kindness to fend them off...and THAT"S what's bothering her. I've had very attractive young ladies in my family and I always advise them that one of the life skills they'll have to acquire is learning how to reject men graciously. You don't need to be short or unkind, at least not initially. If a guy is relentless to the point of being obnoxious and intrusive, then you have to ramp up the boundaries accordingly. I've had several longtime female friends who became bored in their marriages and saw me as an appealing "upgrade." It's a tricky balancing act to maintain the friendship and let them know that I value our relationship and enjoy our connection without appearing to encourage "romantic intrigue." I've had to have "the talk" numerous times with a couple of them. ANd..of course, she's received tons of marriage proposals. The part about marriage proposals, how often do people receive marraige proposals from without even dating them??That has always puzzled me, too. I usually don't develop even mildly strong feelings if I feel a relationship isn't progressing in a reciprocal way. You usually see this kind of thing in old movies like "Gone With The Wind." Hard to imagine in modern life.
Mrlonelyone Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 I would say that getting marriage proposals out of the blue is not normal. Perhaps the women around her are so awful in some way that she looks like a 25 on a scale of 1-10. My little sister is one who gets lots of attention from men. She is special in a way that isn't always good, you know. She is really nice and sweet and acts oblivious to them. This keeps the men at bay. I'm sure most halfway decent looking people get approached for dating, and sex all the time. Male and female. Their issue is that either they aren't looking for a relationship (fling, or anything like that) or they aren't being approached by people who are attractive enough. About not "wanting a relationship right now". In my experience that changes when you meet the right person. Times that I haven't wanted a relationship I'd meet someone. Or, someone woul tell me they don't want a relationship...then be in one latter. Or they would tell me they dont' want to be in a relationship, I find one, then they are sniffing around me wanting me because I'm not available. There is no logic to how any of this works that I see beyond companionship, horniness, and the logic of a child.
Author irc333 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 Yeah, ,this woman's daughter was home visiting for the holidays....and man...the old childhood school mates would all of a sudden start "sniffin' around" the mothers house. "I here daughter's home, is he around? Can she come out to play?" LOL I can' believe these guys still wait around until such women come home to visit. I would say that getting marriage proposals out of the blue is not normal. Perhaps the women around her are so awful in some way that she looks like a 25 on a scale of 1-10. My little sister is one who gets lots of attention from men. She is special in a way that isn't always good, you know. She is really nice and sweet and acts oblivious to them. This keeps the men at bay. I'm sure most halfway decent looking people get approached for dating, and sex all the time. Male and female. Their issue is that either they aren't looking for a relationship (fling, or anything like that) or they aren't being approached by people who are attractive enough. About not "wanting a relationship right now". In my experience that changes when you meet the right person. Times that I haven't wanted a relationship I'd meet someone. Or, someone woul tell me they don't want a relationship...then be in one latter. Or they would tell me they dont' want to be in a relationship, I find one, then they are sniffing around me wanting me because I'm not available. There is no logic to how any of this works that I see beyond companionship, horniness, and the logic of a child.
Author irc333 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 they aren't being approached by people who are attractive enough. I think that's why you see so many over 40 single, never been married women wind up getting such an age and remaining chronically single. No one's good enough.
Imported Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 She is in a job where she is surrounded by cock. Probably a 100+ cock to 1 vage ratio. She just needs to be not too overweight and can probably garner a ton of interest from guys looking for a blowjob. If she is even kinda sorta attractive she will get a lot of attention. Deployed? Even more attention. Lots of girls I knew when I was in the military became total sluts. Too many swinging dicks inflating their ego for them to ignore I guess.
emva07 Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 gah, I have a friend like this, I am the friend who every guy has to tell me "your friend is so hot" all the time 1
gaius Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Women like that actually enjoy the attention on some level and are bragging about it under the guise of complaining. You can't really brag outright as a woman about how much male attention you get, it's considered bad form. Those girls who really don't enjoy it find ways to make it not happen. Like this one girl I knew who would wear sunglasses and keep an mp3 player going when she rode the subway to work. Never had one guy hit on her then despite being a stunner. 2
CrystalCastles Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 She is in a job where she is surrounded by cock. Probably a 100+ cock to 1 vage ratio. She just needs to be not too overweight and can probably garner a ton of interest from guys looking for a blowjob. If she is even kinda sorta attractive she will get a lot of attention. Deployed? Even more attention. Lots of girls I knew when I was in the military became total sluts. Too many swinging dicks inflating their ego for them to ignore I guess. ^^^THIS^^^ I see this in my faculty and at the gym all the time. In my faculty (chemistry), it's about a 10 cock to 1 vag ratio, and at the gym, it's about 40 cock to 1 vag ratio. A woman's rating can greatly inflate if she's one in a sea of dicks.
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