5 months since BU. Today (Christmas day) and it's never been so hard

[Chatmonkey]

Only the first week seemed hard after the BU. Most of the time since then I've been coasting. Not because I didn't love her or care any less, but because I was good at distracting myself. Sure i had my moment from time to time, but thats normal.

 

However, today has been the most sad i've felt since the first week after BU. I haven't stopped thinking about my ex-gf for most of the day. It doesn't help that im in a place where there isn't a whole lot to distract myself with or that last time i stayed here she was with me and we had sex. Not at all.

 

In fact, that is what ive been thinking about most, what we did last time we were here. God i have missed her today.

 

I know i'll get over it. Today is just one of those days where its a bit harder i guess...

I thought about wishing her a merry christmas but i refrained.

 

I have one specific question though -I am going away to America for about 14 months to live. Should i at least say goodbye to her via a text or something? anything? I think i would at least want to say goodbye before i go, it's not like we ended on bad terms or anything! Plus without sounding like a total wanker, an aussie accent seems to drive american girls wild haha so i do not foresee many (if any) more days like today.

 

So should what should i do?

[Chatmonkey]

anyone..? is there something wrong with my question that no one answered? :/

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

Only the first week seemed hard after the BU. Most of the time since then I've been coasting. Not because I didn't love her or care any less, but because I was good at distracting myself. Sure i had my moment from time to time, but thats normal.

 

However, today has been the most sad i've felt since the first week after BU. I haven't stopped thinking about my ex-gf for most of the day. It doesn't help that im in a place where there isn't a whole lot to distract myself with or that last time i stayed here she was with me and we had sex. Not at all.

 

In fact, that is what ive been thinking about most, what we did last time we were here. God i have missed her today.

 

I know i'll get over it. Today is just one of those days where its a bit harder i guess...

I thought about wishing her a merry christmas but i refrained.

 

I have one specific question though -I am going away to America for about 14 months to live. Should i at least say goodbye to her via a text or something? anything? I think i would at least want to say goodbye before i go, it's not like we ended on bad terms or anything! Plus without sounding like a total wanker, an aussie accent seems to drive american girls wild haha so i do not foresee many (if any) more days like today.

 

So should what should i do?

 

Do nothing. Enjoy America (except the South)

[TylerDurdenn]

Today has been extremely hard for me as well, holidays will be over soon though

 

Re saying goodbye, NO I wouldn't say goodbye. Why? What if she says she loves you and wants you back. What would you do?

 

What will you be doing in America?

[organizedchaos]

Only the first week seemed hard after the BU. Most of the time since then I've been coasting. Not because I didn't love her or care any less, but because I was good at distracting myself. Sure i had my moment from time to time, but thats normal.

 

However, today has been the most sad i've felt since the first week after BU. I haven't stopped thinking about my ex-gf for most of the day. It doesn't help that im in a place where there isn't a whole lot to distract myself with or that last time i stayed here she was with me and we had sex. Not at all.

 

In fact, that is what ive been thinking about most, what we did last time we were here. God i have missed her today.

 

I know i'll get over it. Today is just one of those days where its a bit harder i guess...

I thought about wishing her a merry christmas but i refrained.

 

I have one specific question though -I am going away to America for about 14 months to live. Should i at least say goodbye to her via a text or something? anything? I think i would at least want to say goodbye before i go, it's not like we ended on bad terms or anything! Plus without sounding like a total wanker, an aussie accent seems to drive american girls wild haha so i do not foresee many (if any) more days like today.

 

So should what should i do?

 

 

 

I wouldn't say a word.

 

 

And yeah, with your accent, you will have no problems with women here.

[smuggy95]

Well the majority says no. i say tell her goodbye just as you're about to board the plane. that way- no turning back. It seems like something basic- don't say any more or any less. no warm fuzzies or 'i'll miss us' type of nostalgia.

 

at least you got sex on your last visit.