FordF150 Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Hey guys! Merry Christmas! I started talking to this girl about a month ago. We both are recently out of LTR's. I am pretty much over my ex girlfriend of two years..she however, is not 100% over him. She told me this. Anyways, she basically told me she likes talking and hanging out with me but she just isn't exactly over her ex. I was fine with that because she was upfront and she is most likely a rebound for me as well. We don't talk everyday, but we have hung out at a party where we made out and she asked me to go see a movie with her on Thursday night. We had a good time, we talked a lot, got along great actually. Nothing awkward about the night at all. I dropped her off and she told me she had a great time and will take me out next time, no kiss. She even texted me an hour after the date saying something like "Thanks for taking me, I had a lot of fun. Sweet dreams :)" I sent her a text in the morning because I had fallen asleep. No response, didn't think much of it though since it was basically a I had fun too thanks for it blah blah blah. Anyways, I texted her the next day asking if she'd want to go ice skating the next night. She told me she had work. No problem. Two nights later I was with a buddy pretty late around 11:30 and he told me to text her and ask her what she's doing, he wanted to see if she was with friends that he could meet. She never responded to me though..I was pretty confused. So now two days later I sent her a Christmas Eve text which she responded to in a cheerful fashion. I didn't respond afterwards. I feel like she just isn't into me..but then why did she text me after the date and tell me she wanted to take me out next time? A girlfriend of mine suggested texting her after Christmas and just asking her what's going on between us, as in where we stand. I started to like this girl and I thought she did too. The date did go well! Any suggestions on what I should do?
GemmaUK Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Always pay more attention to the comments you think are more negative and the comments you don't want to hear. I'm sure she did have a great time out with you but she has already told you that she isn't yet over her ex yet. She has been straight with you and it means that she isn't wanting to date. You haven't been terribly straight with her in that you see her as a rebound so she has no idea of your interest level. She might well be thinking you are looking for something serious - and she has been really clear in that she isn't. If you told her that you think of her as a rebound then she could well just run anyway but it really is better to say as then she has a choice to either stick around and just have a bit of fun or not bother at all. However, you really are better off listening to what she said about not being ready for anything and take that at face value - move on to someone else who is ready for something more or at least be honest with someone else and state that you are only looking for a bit of fun just now.
Author FordF150 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 Always pay more attention to the comments you think are more negative and the comments you don't want to hear. I'm sure she did have a great time out with you but she has already told you that she isn't yet over her ex yet. She has been straight with you and it means that she isn't wanting to date. You haven't been terribly straight with her in that you see her as a rebound so she has no idea of your interest level. She might well be thinking you are looking for something serious - and she has been really clear in that she isn't. If you told her that you think of her as a rebound then she could well just run anyway but it really is better to say as then she has a choice to either stick around and just have a bit of fun or not bother at all. However, you really are better off listening to what she said about not being ready for anything and take that at face value - move on to someone else who is ready for something more or at least be honest with someone else and state that you are only looking for a bit of fun just now. Well I understand she's not over her ex. However, she did not say she doesn't want to date or anything like that. She told me "I'm really scared to get hurt again." Her ex cheated on her multiple times. I'm not looking for anything serious, I'm sure she isn't either. Should I tell her this after today? Not really trying to talk about this on Christmas.
Author FordF150 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 Anyone have any other suggestions?
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