thedream13 Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 (edited) Here late on christmas eve (well technically christmas day by now lol) I just got the most disgusting text from my ex. This is my first actual post, but i have lurked on here occasionally before. Sorry for the venting nature of this post, as i am infuriated right now (and a little tipsy:p) Also, the main part of this post is the last paragraph, skim the rest to get through the details if you want lol. Anyway my story starts freshman year of college, and i am currently a sophmore and almost twenty one. After taking a year off after high school to go play hockey in Canada and blowing out my knee (rock bottom) i decided to give up on my dreams and go to college. The day i moved in i saw her. She was perfect. Everything i wanted in a girl. A few weeks passed and i started partying a lot and hanging out with friends and never really saw her. Finally, one day i saw her sitting in the cafeteria with a couple other guys from my floor (who i eventually became best friends with) and i sat down and ate. We had instant chemistry. We started to have a best friends type of relationship and did everything together. Nothing more for about a month. About a month in, i decided i had had enough of being her friend, and through mutual friends i had heard that she wanted more as well. One night out she had a few too many (although i think she was faking it a bit) and just confessed her feelings. The next few months we were "in a relationship" and it was truly the happiest time in my short life. Towards the end of the semester as my knee began to improve, i got a call from a CHL team from far away offering me a spot. I was stuck. She was angry that i even considered it, and it led to a rough patch. I decided i had to go, i knew if i didn't i would regret if forever. Her inability to sympathize with the tough choice i had to make certainly helped. Before i left for the great white north, she broke up with me, which i understood. The way she did it though broke me, and i started to see the uncaring and selfish side of her. So i left, on terrible terms. We didn't talk for awhile, but eventually she started texting me while she was drunk. She would lie and say terrible things about how i was never going to find someone like her, my dreams were purely fantasy, and just dragging me down. It was obvious that she still loved me though. I was ripping up my league, playing the best hockey in my life, and had completely forgotten about her. Then it happened yet again, and this injury was basically my career ender. My scholarship offers were off the table and i even had a pro team overseas that was looking at me. I was crushed, and went back to the same college. I decided that i needed to stay away from her. At a large state university i thought i should be able to. About three weeks in i saw her, and she ran to me and started tearing up. My dumbass thought we could go back to what we had before. Wrong. We dated again for a couple weeks, but we broke up soon after, as she felt i wasn't good enough for her. Whatever Fast forward to tonight, and i get a text at 1 am, in which she states that i can **** off, she won, and she had a new boyfriend. She can see that i read the message, and i didn't respond. She calls me, i answer and tell her i hope she is happy and hang up. she sends a picture of her and her new bf laying in bed together smiling. I am beat. I still love her to death and can't move on, but now i also hate her more than anything. My christmas has been ruined Edited December 25, 2013 by thedream13
DannyCA Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Fast forward to tonight, and i get a text at 1 am, in which she states that i can **** off, she won, and she had a new boyfriend. She can see that i read the message, and i didn't respond. She calls me, i answer and tell her i hope she is happy and hang up. she sends a picture of her and her new bf laying in bed together smiling. I am beat. I still love her to death and can't move on, but now i also hate her more than anything. My christmas has been ruined By far that is one of the most selfish and inconsiderate things I have ever heard of. Who does that?! And what does that accomplish for her other than make her look childish? Seriously, don't let that ruin your Christmas or else she just won. You were completely fine before she came into your life, so have fun and do whatever the hell you like to do. If she comes back to you, cool, you can then decide if you really want her back. If she doesn't, remember how much of an inconsiderate little girl she was when she texted you that and find a woman 10 times better. 1
Allumere Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 what a disgusting lil b****! No one treats someone like that...ever. There is nothing to love there. She is a self-center, mean-spirited person. Don't feel beat....feel grateful. She showed her true colors. You don't need someone like that in your life. 4
Poppyolive Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Looks like Santa won't be visiting her....what a sly lil wagon! Chin up young chap. Blast some music & indulge in the wonderfulness of Christmas. She can go choke on a turkey bone...;-) (just kidding about the choking part) life is sweet, this too shall pass. 1
Author thedream13 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 (edited) Yeah, i hope i never see her again. Whenever i do, even if just by chance she pulls me back in. It really is ridiculous. Sometimes i think maybe her selfishness is because of how much she loves me, but this was just too much. Feel bad for the new guy lol. The only problem with trying to do what i like to do is that hockey was my life. She kind of filled a void, i had never had a relationship like that one. Now that my aspirations were taken away, it seems like i need a relationship to lean on. I need to find some new hobbies i guess. Everything that i was passionate about was school, hockey, and her for a while. Edited December 25, 2013 by thedream13
HorseLuck Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 I'm sorry to hear that. It's most likely an act combined with alcohol and she's going to regret it big time later. Trying to dodge the holiday texts myself. It's begun. >_< 1
bob the brave Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 I'm going to play devil's advocate here. If she is happy in her new life with her new bf, why contact you the way she did? She doesen't hate you, she is really, really hurt. Some people don't handle rejection well and it was proabably a combination of both this and loving you. She wants you to feel the same pain she thinks you made her feel. I would venture to say a big part of her wants you to see the picture, go nuts and come fight for her. She wants you back, she wants you to apologize for dumping her, for leaving her, for hurting her. I definitely understand your side bro, really. But from her viewpoint, you dumped her to play hockey. I think the reason your reboot failed is because these deep seated issues were never addressed. You were together again, but she was still hurt underneith. Check your feelings, I don't think you really love her at all. You were able to leave her behind for your dream and sounds like you didn't think too much about her when things were going well. Now you only hurt because she is happy with someone else. This is normal breakup stuff. You are going to have to decide if you REALLY do like this girl and what that means to your future. You say she was everything you wanted in a girl. What does that mean? For a fling, a month, a semester, a FWB or a lifetime. Only you know the answer. If you really like her, go toss this guy to the curb (figuratively, it's not his fault), tell her you love her and your sorry for hurting her and mean it. If not, move on and think positive. The tricky part here is that if you do return to her, not to salvage yourself in the process. You are still you, you are still your the captain of your boat. Yes, in this sense you made a mistake be she doesn't own you. You don't have to make anything up to her. Just be true from that point forward. I say this because some guys come back with truck loads of flowers, get on their knees (which is probably even harder for you), gravel and say they will do anything to make it up to their girl or at least feel this way inside. This is not a man and this is not want a woman wants. She dosen't want you to owe her (though she may joke aobut it). She wants you to love her. 1
Omei Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 (edited) well she's cruel, and I feel bad for the guy she's using to upset you with. I bet he wouldn't be too pleased to know shes like that. You can be on your own without needing someone to be happy and you wont go out and false emotions on someone to get a revenge snap shot. I agree shes likely in pain dont respond you both need to heal you shouldnt answer her calls. Edited December 25, 2013 by Omei 1
dreamingoftigers Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 The only person I know in real life who did something very similar to someone was the biggest, most selfish user of a woman I've ever known. You have no idea how big the bullet you dodged here is. Especially on Christmas. Like WTF? This wasn't a girlfriend. This was a life lesson. That one girl I mentioned. She kicked her husband and two kids out of the house. She dumped him for his brother. And thàn his brother for his friend. She lived with/mooched off of the friend for six months (including totalling his car). She hooked up with his best friend. The one she was living with kicked her out. All of this happened within eight months of leaving her husband. She took a real nice photo of her topless with the last guy's body on top of hers covering any *ahem* "immodesty." And they were French kissing. She shared it on FB, including her husbsnd's page. And had a very good laugh about it. The new guy is a total sucker. She even blew her husband while she was with him. I don't even know if she knows who she's cheating on anymore considering how much she's messed with everyone's head. People don't generally "smear" happiness in other's faces if it's genuine. Here late on christmas eve (well technically christmas day by now lol) I just got the most disgusting text from my ex. This is my first actual post, but i have lurked on here occasionally before. Sorry for the venting nature of this post, as i am infuriated right now (and a little tipsy:p) Also, the main part of this post is the last paragraph, skim the rest to get through the details if you want lol. Anyway my story starts freshman year of college, and i am currently a sophmore and almost twenty one. After taking a year off after high school to go play hockey in Canada and blowing out my knee (rock bottom) i decided to give up on my dreams and go to college. The day i moved in i saw her. She was perfect. Everything i wanted in a girl. A few weeks passed and i started partying a lot and hanging out with friends and never really saw her. Finally, one day i saw her sitting in the cafeteria with a couple other guys from my floor (who i eventually became best friends with) and i sat down and ate. We had instant chemistry. We started to have a best friends type of relationship and did everything together. Nothing more for about a month. About a month in, i decided i had had enough of being her friend, and through mutual friends i had heard that she wanted more as well. One night out she had a few too many (although i think she was faking it a bit) and just confessed her feelings. The next few months we were "in a relationship" and it was truly the happiest time in my short life. Towards the end of the semester as my knee began to improve, i got a call from a CHL team from far away offering me a spot. I was stuck. She was angry that i even considered it, and it led to a rough patch. I decided i had to go, i knew if i didn't i would regret if forever. Her inability to sympathize with the tough choice i had to make certainly helped. Before i left for the great white north, she broke up with me, which i understood. The way she did it though broke me, and i started to see the uncaring and selfish side of her. So i left, on terrible terms. We didn't talk for awhile, but eventually she started texting me while she was drunk. She would lie and say terrible things about how i was never going to find someone like her, my dreams were purely fantasy, and just dragging me down. It was obvious that she still loved me though. I was ripping up my league, playing the best hockey in my life, and had completely forgotten about her. Then it happened yet again, and this injury was basically my career ender. My scholarship offers were off the table and i even had a pro team overseas that was looking at me. I was crushed, and went back to the same college. I decided that i needed to stay away from her. At a large state university i thought i should be able to. About three weeks in i saw her, and she ran to me and started tearing up. My dumbass thought we could go back to what we had before. Wrong. We dated again for a couple weeks, but we broke up soon after, as she felt i wasn't good enough for her. Whatever Fast forward to tonight, and i get a text at 1 am, in which she states that i can **** off, she won, and she had a new boyfriend. She can see that i read the message, and i didn't respond. She calls me, i answer and tell her i hope she is happy and hang up. she sends a picture of her and her new bf laying in bed together smiling. I am beat. I still love her to death and can't move on, but now i also hate her more than anything. My christmas has been ruined
Author thedream13 Posted December 26, 2013 Author Posted December 26, 2013 Thanks guys, really needed some outside input. This girl has obvious maturing to do, she was kind of spoiled growing up. I don't see her being a part of my life anytime ever at this point. Just not worth it, im in college
vassilbg Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Bro, she is a disgusting person and just an overall terrible human being. That makes me sick just reading it. I'm so, soooooo sorry you are going through this.
JDPT Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 She is vicious to say the least and it's safe to say that you dodged a bullet.
fixing Posted December 28, 2013 Posted December 28, 2013 What a vile little Sociopath. I know that must have hurt like hell, but step back and look inwards on it. She obviously isnt happy and she is using that guy to try and hurt you. I feel sorry for him, and obviously more for you, but hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaaha What an absolute bitch. You know you got the upperhand here right? Like, you know you have just had the last laugh? Now ignore her for ever. Sorry to hear about your injury too, that must suck. Stay strong friend.
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