DannyCA Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 (edited) Long story short: -I'm 22, She's 20 -She broke up with me -We were long distance (1,000 miles) -We broke up 11 months ago -I acted insecure towards the end, but thought I was making an effort to change -She acted cold, bitter and angry towards the end without acknowledging -Started to act distant and strange the very same weekend she made a couple of friends (had 0 friends up until that point) -We were on and off contact for quite some time after break -Majority of contact being on her part except for the most recent (1 month ago) -Four months ago she did this thing where she would contact me everyday and act like nothing ever happened so I told her to stop contacting me (but in more blunt and harsh words) -One month ago I felt like I was no better than her so I contacted her to apologize, she wasn't giving me the time of day so I just texted her my apology, and felt instantly better, as if some kind of weight had been lifted from my shoulders. And haven't spoken to her since. -Before, everytime she texted me before I got this weird feeling in my stomach, I don't know how to explain it, it was just like a sudden feeling in my stomach that would come and go. -I can honestly say seeing her name come up on my phone right now didn't do anything for me. Do I still care about her? Fortunately or unfortunately (depending on how you see it) yes. Do I hope we somehow find each other in the future? Yes because I can see now that we can not be what we need for each other until we both mature a little bit more. But I can also say right now I don't care one bit that she texted me. I can finally see that even if your ex doesn't come back, life really does move on. So I guess my question is what would you guys do? Would it mean anything if I respond? Is that the civil thing to do? Her message was basically this: Drinking [insert our favorite whiskey] on the rocks...made me think of you. Happy Holidays Edited December 25, 2013 by DannyCA
treezy Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 If you see a future with that girl and you're ready to start reconnecting, you can send her a short reply saying thanks and continue the conversation. Don't get too pushy though. If you see a future with that girl but you're not ready to start reconnecting, send her a message saying thanks but you'll appreciate some space for now and that you'll be in touch when you're ready. Don't need to go into details, just make it short and to the point. If you do not see a future with that girl and you're not interested in reconnecting, say thanks and leave it as that. 1
Author DannyCA Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 If you see a future with that girl and you're ready to start reconnecting, you can send her a short reply saying thanks and continue the conversation. Don't get too pushy though. If you see a future with that girl but you're not ready to start reconnecting, send her a message saying thanks but you'll appreciate some space for now and that you'll be in touch when you're ready. Don't need to go into details, just make it short and to the point. If you do not see a future with that girl and you're not interested in reconnecting, say thanks and leave it as that. Thats the thing I'm just tired of this bs. I just want to be friends again. All of this crap back and forth that we did this past year. Ignoring each other, being short with each other, being mad, etc. We used to be best friends, how do two people get to this point? My only thing is she is very guilty of giving me breadcrumbs. Is this nothing more than that once again? And she has been back home about four times since our split with the most recent being within the past week but has never once tried to see me, I just heard she was in town from friends. If she really wanted to talk, couldn't she have tried to see me in person?
Reels Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 If you still love her, you must tell her about it.
Author DannyCA Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 If you still love her, you must tell her about it. What am I hoping to accomplish by doing that? This far into our breakup does that even mean anything even if I still do?
Reels Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 What am I hoping to accomplish by doing that? This far into our breakup does that even mean anything even if I still do? You may just find a new way.
Author DannyCA Posted December 26, 2013 Author Posted December 26, 2013 You may just find a new way. Well if it were that easy I think everyone would be back with their ex's
xUnknown Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 Well if it were that easy I think everyone would be back with their ex's The way I see it, if all you've got to lose is your dignity, and what you have to gain is the woman you love...wouldn't you take that risk? So she turns you down, well you're back to where you are now. 2
Reels Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Well if it were that easy I think everyone would be back with their ex's Indeed, but most of them prefer not to, because they either find someone else or they have enough misunderstandings about the ex.
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