nooor1290 Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Okay so ive been With my girlfriend for a year and we broke up the same day we got together (a year later ofc) and after two weeks I missed her too much so I came back, heres Where it gets confusing for me becuase she says she loves me and cares for me but she doesn't want a Relationship with me yet, she wants to spend her life with me but shes saying she cant be in a Relationship With Me even though Theres a part of her that wants too... At the moment im friendzoned, we both love each other and I Just cant seem to get back into the relationship with her at this time, what do I do?
emi Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 why u guys break up? and how long is the distance? any end day ?
Author nooor1290 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 We broke up because during the last month we hardly communicated and it wasnt the same, weve had time away from each other and well we want to get back but shes saying she cant just yet, I live in England and she lives in America, 4-5,000 miles away
Solcita2 Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 How many times you actually saw each other during the year of your relationship?
skydiveaddict Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 At the moment im friendzoned, Then you are done we both love each other Wrong. If that were so, you wouldn't be in the friend zone.
Author nooor1290 Posted December 26, 2013 Author Posted December 26, 2013 She does love me but she doesnt want a relationship atm, she wants to settle down with me, I think she doesnt want to be in a relationship Just yet because she doesnt gave to worry about anyone else for now, while she clears her mind, but she doesnt want to lose me I know she wants to get back with me but shes like avoiding it for the moment, we still talk and everything
skydiveaddict Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 She does love me No she doesn't. Quit trying to fool yourself.
Solcita2 Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 She does love me but she doesnt want a relationship atm, she wants to settle down with me, I think she doesnt want to be in a relationship Just yet because she doesnt gave to worry about anyone else for now, while she clears her mind, but she doesnt want to lose me I know she wants to get back with me but shes like avoiding it for the moment, we still talk and everything The right person at the wrong time, it's still the wrong person...
FitChick Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 She probably found someone locally. By the way, who was hoping to move where? You do realize one of you would have to move.
TaraMaiden Posted December 27, 2013 Posted December 27, 2013 Okay so ive been With my girlfriend for a year and we broke up the same day we got together (a year later ofc) and after two weeks I missed her too much so I came back, heres Where it gets confusing for me becuase she says she loves me and cares for me but she doesn't want a Relationship with me yet, she wants to spend her life with me but shes saying she cant be in a Relationship With Me even though Theres a part of her that wants too... At the moment im friendzoned, we both love each other and I Just cant seem to get back into the relationship with her at this time, what do I do? This is impossible. You need to get a grip. Essentially, this is what she is telling you: "I want to break up with you, and I want to find new things to do, new people to see, new experiences that challenge me, and new guys to ball. In the meantime, I don't want to hurt your feelings so I'll tell you to wait for me, because I'll promise you I will be back. of course, I won't but hopefully this way will hurt you less. It's over, but if I ask you to wait in the wings, maybe you'll eventually get the message." Her asking you to wait for her is both selfish and unrealistic, especially considering you live half a world apart. It can't be done, and it's completely unreasonable of her to presume that will be ok with you. It's not ok. You need to go No Contact, and frankly? Move on. It's over, finished and sadly, you need to really see this and accept it. 1
Author nooor1290 Posted December 30, 2013 Author Posted December 30, 2013 Well... I done what you guys told me to do... Instead of being serious she got in a mood and well thats It... Its over...
Solcita2 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Well... I done what you guys told me to do... Instead of being serious she got in a mood and well thats It... Its over... I'm not sure I understand... what did you do and what did she say to that?
Author nooor1290 Posted December 30, 2013 Author Posted December 30, 2013 Well she said she just wants to be friends so I told her its not fair on me, if you want Me its now or never because im Not Gonna wait around for you to decide when you want to date me and When you dont want to. And She got in a mood and told me to leave, so fair Enough I left... and that's where it ended
TaraMaiden Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Well... I done what you guys told me to do... Instead of being serious she got in a mood and well thats It... Its over... We told you it was over, to go No Contact, and never speak to her again. You clearly went completely AGAINST everything we told you to do.... Well she said she just wants to be friends so I told her its not fair on me, if you want Me its now or never because im Not Gonna wait around for you to decide when you want to date me and When you dont want to. And She got in a mood and told me to leave, so fair Enough I left... and that's where it ended What's that? "It ended....."? Good. Now you know. It's over, go NO CONTACT and never ever engage in any form of discussion or dialogue with her ever again. See? All for her, her ego, and her well-being.
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